Just engagement bait from xhitter, nothing lewd but more engagement bait in her profile
What? Humans talk about sex all the time even with all their puritanical taboos and restrictions. Do zoomers think they’re the first generation to have raunchy language? Sharp difference between obscenity and regarding oneself as a complete sexual being.
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The foundation of sex is consent. If consent (including hearing about it and discussing it) is absent, then it is torture.
And I literally mean rape and sexual assault should be considered torture, because they are and they have the same effects on the brain as classic forms of torture, and indeed both SA and rape are used as a form of torture in war. Look at the mass rapes in Ukraine. It’s not for sexual gratification, it’s to torture people, and they also happen to get off on it. EAR/GSK couldn’t even get hard often with his victims, he just wanted to tie people up and torture them and that sexually excited him.
People talking about sex is not torture. Get a grip.
It is if it’s not consensual.
Verbal and emotional abuse are still abuse, still count as harm, and psychological abuse is so effective it is used in psychological warfare.
Physical abuse is to physical torture, what verbal&emotional abuse are to psychological torture.
Maybe learn a little about consent so you stop harming others. I’ve already given you an example of why someone may not want to discuss sex (past trauma), but also, given your personality- they may find YOU distressing to talk with and not a safe person. And by your own words, you aren’t.
You are torturing me with your username. Why do you want to harm me and the rest of Lemmy?
Haha was about to say the same thing, they be riding that high horse forgetting their roots
You consented to read and interact with their comments at the moment you signed up and logged in. From then on whatever happened, you chose and made it happen
The foundation of every activity people do together is consent. That doesn’t mean I need the consent of everyone in the room to talk about something.
The second paragraph has my full support, the first one seems weird to me.
No, and your sex ed is incomplete if you don’t understand this.
No, not every activity is consensual. What consent is, is a deeper question and interaction than what you’re making it out to be.
Consent is the foundation of sexual education and sexual interactions.
Freedom of speech is separate, and no, you don’t “need the consent of everyone in the room to talk about something,” but then you’re operating outside of consent, and you may violate emotional boundaries. That includes triggering survivors who may not have expected you to violate social norms and who would have told you, “hey, I don’t like talking about sex in front of people because I get panic attacks.”
These interactions, being between more than 1 person, require the input of the other people. It’s not a great look to force people into accepting sex as you see it or want it.
That includes triggering survivors who may not have expected you to violate social norms and who would have told you, “hey, I don’t like talking about sex in front of people because I get panic attacks.”
That’s true but that’s also true for any number of topics. This is a general “how/when do I talk about potentially triggering topics” issue and has nothing to do with sexual consent.
My dude, you set up the strawman argument of speech in a conversation about sexual consent. They were just trying to explain how they’re not the same thing.
No. I reacted to someone claiming that hearing about sex needs the hearing parties consent, the same as sex needs consent which I don’t agree with.
Talking about sex needs to be done with some caution to not upset others, like many other topics. It’s different from the consent needed for engaging in sexual activities with someone.
People that make posts like this clearly don’t understand what “normalizing” means. It doesn’t mean being blindly accepting of everything that would be the exact opposite of “normalizing”. It rather means we as a society decide, what “is regarded as normal” and what “isn’t regarded as normal”. In that sense sex is already normalized. The overwhelming majority of all people are straight, who also mostly engage in recreational and procreational sex. And this is what is also considered the “norm”.
We don’t have to go out of our way to find excuses to make specific kinks and fetishes out as “normal”, because they will mostly never matter to the average persons life. And it’s also widely accepted as normal, that if you want to get “kinky”, you do it on your own time, not everybody else’s.
The goal of the anti-LGBT relious nuts is to force people into straight marriages because that’s all that matters to religious zealots.
They know that if kids practice safe sex they won’t get pregnant and ‘shot gun marriage’ rates will go down.
They know that if kids discover their gender or sexual identity is non-cis, non-het, or non-monogamous that they might not wind up having a traditional marriage.
The know that people who only have 1 partner in their lifetime are much, much less likely to successfully leave an abusive partner, meaning there’s a higher rate of divorce if people learn that having multiple partners in your life is normal and okay.
They know that kids who are educated about healthy sex and consent in relationships are less likely to go along with a child marriage or an assigned marriage.
They know that removing sex ed means more teen pregnancy, more intimate partner abuse, and more child-rape. For religious people whose only goal is to get young women into marriages, those are good things.
Example: An actual elected official in the state of Missouri defending his stance that “Parents Rights” includes the ability to marry off their kids to adults at age 12, because “Do you know any kids that have been married at age 12, I do, and guess what, they’re still married”. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9H6UJ-uCrgc
These people legitimately believe that it’s morally correct to kidnap a 12 year old girl and force her to be entirely subserviant to, and dependent on, some pedophile husband who controls everything they do, because them being trapped in that awful situation means that there’s one more marriage in the world.
Some of these comments are way too straight for my gay ass to understand
Twitter user detected, opinion disregarded
Could be pre Xwitter
Still Twitter, opinion still disregarded
It’s important to have standards
It’s almost like paedophiles would benefit from people being too ashamed to talk about sex.
Normalise sex by having it with me
i just have a short nine-point questionnare
And yet this self satisfied intellectual stance on sex happens to be a huge fucking turn off
lots of fluid transfer involved. also humor. science helps. intellectuals can be hot too, it’s not just a slur.
I get my rocks off by mildly annoying internet denizens so no hard feelings
it’s very clearly tongue in cheek
Sorry being a kill joy is my kink
idk I’m into it
Guys…one important thing to know is that jacking off is super easy and free. Having sex with a partner is way much more energy intensive, gets you tired, it’s expensive if you want privacy and protection etc…hotel house, marriage, kids, clothes diapers etc. And there are huge risks like marrying the wrong person because all you can think of is sex or because you got pregnant or got her pregnant. There’s also the risk of STI including HIV AIDS. Its scary. So I agree let’s be lewd so we can talk about it.
This guy goons
me too thanks
Ok riddle me this. How can we normalize sex, if women have to walk on egg shells because any sign of platonic affection or romantical availability (in their eyes) will be met with unwanted approaches from certain parties.
well in theory if sex is normalized people won’t be so weird about it.
What if we only normalise gay sex?
Nice try Italy, we’re not doing ancient Rome again.
How about we also normalize men being okay with being told no?
Look, I was trying to come up with some good hearted explanation for men’s behavior (something about not being able to put themselves into womens shoes) because I didn’t want to get downvoted to shit again, but frankly I don’t care anymore.
Because it mostly comes down to women being fucking horrible communicators and having chronic indecisiveness.
Figure your shit out.
? I’m a Dominatrix, my experience of women and as a woman is that they are excellent communicators (women are actually famously good communicators) and not indecisive (unless you’re trying to be pushy and force them into something they dislike?). Both men and women who are new to exploring their sexuality will not know what they like, but that’s just part of being new to something.
I’ve gone to sex clubs, try it some time. They usually have strict consent rules and staff to help deal with conflicts. Saying No is not usually an issue there, because there’s rules in place for how to approach women and what you must do when they say no.
If a woman isn’t interested in discussing sex with men she doesn’t like, she doesn’t have to. It’s important to have and express boundaries - that’s a key part of healthy sex. That includes a boundary of not talking about sex with men she doesn’t want to.
Don’t you think that a little biased? We can all pick some fring cases from bith sides of the bell curve but thats not in good faith. Businesses like sex clubs kind of depend on clear communication, don’t they? So people who can’t adhere to that naturaly get filtered out.
But if the stakes are lowered, most men’s experience is that women are barely comprehensible.
“What restaurant do you want to go to?”
“Do you know what you’re going to wear tonight?”
“Should we get those curtains, or the other ones?”
“Do you also want fries with your Burger, too?”
“What soap do you think smells better?”
As a side note, recently got a new room mate and on the first evening we randomly chatted about our music taste for 2 hours straight.
I’ll be damned if I even get a favorite genre out of a woman, yet alone a song. It’s insanity. Women don’t even know what they like themselves.It think the main difference is that women like having options just as much as having the actual thing. When pressed to make a decision on the spot they tend to divert. Women tend to make better informed decisions but can’t fully communicate their decision making process, while men like to get the decision out if the way quickly. Men usually don’t like to keep things open because they don’t know when another opportunity is going to arise or if there’s even going to be another one at all.
I know it’s hard to believe but men tend to not get a lot of options when it comes to most things, despite this being a “man’s world”. Businesses love men more because we are so easily replaceable, not because we “know what’s up”. Everywhere in the world men get swallowed, chewed out and spit out, the more so, the more men try to cling to every bit of power they can get. Usually if a man complains about his comfort it’s not because something simply bothers him but because conditions have gotten borderline hell-like. Men aren’t just opportunistic, we make decisions faster because when we are finally presented with one we are in the verge of collapse, so the quickest most simple solution is usually the best in our eyes. I feel like women don’t see that about men. They see the options that men get (that they maybe don’t get themselves) without understanding why this option is there in the first place. Men don"t get opportunities out of the kindess of others hearts, men get get them to keep them mildly contempt.
Do women think that men aren’t scared if other men, and what they might do? Why is fear monopolized by women? Men try to keep themselves happy because who else is going to do all the dirty work that need to be done to keep this rock spinning?
It could become as normal as talking about dancing:
"I went to dance class last night, only my second week so I still get nervous but it’s good fun and great exercise!
They taught the newer students a new dance and we had to partner up with someone we hadn’t danced with before. I got a lovely older lady and OMG - she was so agile she almost broke MY hip! I’m soo sore but going back tomorrow!"
“Normal” my ass.
Go on, mention to your other male coworkers that your going to dance classes. See how that goes.
I can’t really disagree with this. Sex and sexuality are integral parts of life and as such should be viewed as just another topic for being openly talked and taught. Perhaps if such approach came to be, maybe it would cause a shift towards true liberation.
Sex is such a minuscule part of the majority of peoples lives. Technically “ideally” everybody would only need to have sex 1-2 times (i.e have 2 kids or more) throughout their entire lives to keep our species going.
Most people shit themselves more often than that and there’s no talk about normalizing that.
