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Edit: decided a default “amogus” was funnier and made more sense
You can post or comment here with any level of confidence or inconfidence in your identity.
Edit: decided a default “amogus” was funnier and made more sense
Someday i had the thougt that the existence of trans people implies that there must be a emotion/feeling or way of knowing your own gender.
So i asked the people that i trust, they confirmed the existence of a gender feeling, and that left me questioning.
Do i have a feeling and dont realize it, do i have no feeling, what the heck is a gender, what does that mean for me, are part of my body issues conected with that topic etc.
Gender is kind of fucky. It doesn’t necessarily matter to someone being trans. We know that’s a controversial take but what we mean is this: Gender and sex are both social constructs, therefore don’t worry too much about feeling one overarching ‘gender’ or something, instead focus on things like “what do I like to do?”, “who do I want to be?”, “am I okay with my body?” “if I am not okay with my body then why not?” “how can the things I am not okay with be resolved? Is it through learning to accept that I don’t have to look like people expect or do I genuinely want to change my body?” etc etc. We genuinely hope this helps.
It certainly helps to hear that the "fuck gender, gender is just a social construct " approach is a thought other beings had :D. And to focus on single things instead of the whole picture is a good advice, makes it easyer to approach the “problem” so thank you.
Sure, we are happy to help!
I’ve seen multiple of trans people say things along the lines of “I decided I was a girl a few years after starting HRT and everyone was already calling me one.” Guess they could just be agender specifically.
Anyways, I also find the whole topic of gender confusing, so can’t help you too much with figuring out the answer to that (I’ve been in these communities for a the last few years (after my egg cracked) and frequently interacted with the community for a couple years before that.
Ultimately, I don’t think it really matters what a gender is though to determine what steps you can take to be happier regardless of your gender (or lack thereof). I certainly heard that idea before, but it still took me a while to really internalize it.