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Cooking.
Following a recipe is a good start, and at least allows you to feed yourself beyond microwaved bullshit or going out to a restaurant. Knowing the science behind it, however, can open up new avenues to making dishes you love even if you can’t get all of the usual ingredients because you will know what you can use instead without compromising the taste or texture.
It’s probably cliche but if you’re into youtube tutorials Basics with Babish is a great place to start. He teaches simple dishes that taste great and teach different skills. Another way to learn is to do one of the all in one delivery meal like hello fresh. It’s expensive but still affordable and it’s really good practice. If you dont want to spend on it you can also just get the recipes online. Also, if you find a dish a you really like you can make it whenever.
Isnt Hello Fresh just following the recipe without doing grocery shopping?
What does it do better than me finding recipes online?The recipes are really well done especially for a learner. This is one of the ways I taught my teens to cook.
Even the food pre-packaging can be a good thing beyond the convenience . While you could do the shopping yourself, sometimes people aren’t comfortable with that when you need small amounts for recipes.
Totally fair. The few recipes I saw from YT were quite neat.
There’s also the tragedy of choice. It may seem counterintuitive, but it can be easier to choose among a small set of curated recipes than the infinite variety online.
I generally go with something I find online, something I’m familiar with, or something I make up, but that can be difficult for some people until they gain experience. Even then I am tempted to bring back Hello Fresh for myself - it takes all the guesswork out, is very convenient, and is always a success
Totally. Decision paralysis is a dealbreaker.
Upsite: You don’t have to remember going for groceries as it’s all already cared for and the possibility for trying something actually new is higher.
It gives you exact amounts of the right ingredients which alleviates a pain when grocery shopping.
Once you have enough recipes under your belt that you can figure out ways to use your leftover raw ingredients, it’s no longer worthwhile.
Beat me to it! I was going to say at least a couple basic meals that you really enjoy. It can be fancy, or it can be some dorm quality things that fill you with nostalgia, as long as prepping it and eating it makes you happy.
We need to eat, and we need to feel satisfaction from something we have done ourselves, so do both at once.
Emotional stability.
Everyone has wildly varying emotions
Emotional regulation is the ability to steer the sheep during a storm.
This superpower still eludes me most of the time but I keep practising.
Me in my head: masterful dialog which turns heads and begins paradigms
Me in conversation: i want ed ,to , w batch of yDid
Me in same conversation: that’s what she said
awkward silence
sheep
thanks for the catch, i fixed it
Funny enough, this is what one would call the Going Merry.
Don’t get it? Look up the Straw Hat Pirates’ first ship.
Themselves.
I haven’t even begun to peak
The only answer here I agree with.
There’s no specific task, job or skill everyone needs to master. Everyone should know the basics of a lot of things, but the only thing you really need to master is yourself.
Good comment 5/5 would give free silver
Just want to point out, I said try to master, there’s a distinction. Love you.
Yes, that’s how I interpreted it.
I’m just of the opinion that there isn’t any single skill that every one should even attempt to master, except exactly mastering themselves.
Even the most basic things like cooking or something… not everyone needs to try to master it.
I just can’t come up with anything everyone should even attempt to master. I can think of several you should know the rough basics of. Like first aid. But there’s literally no point in trying to “master it”, unless you’re actually going to work in medicine.
Like I don’t disagree or judge in anything way. I just can’t think of any.
Polite conversation
Knowing when silence is damaging
Knowing when to shut up
Knowing when to leave a conversation, a room, a party, a relationship, etc.
I always feel like if you’re spending time with someone new, it’s OK to have stints of silence. It’s one thing to get along with someone by having easy conversation. At the same time it’s nice to know that you don’t always have to fill up every moment with dialog. To just exist in someone else’s presence is sometimes enough.
That’s something I struggle to internalize, even when I’m with my best friends. I dunno how to be comfortable with silence, with a lull in the hangout sesh, it just eats me up and makes me feel like a bad friend.
Yep. Right there with you. With my upbringing if someone was silent around you, they were seething at you for something you did. And you know what it was! (You probably don’t, actually. Good luck guessing.)
This makes things unnecessarily interesting when I have long car rides with my naturally-introverted wife and I start feeling like I’ve done something terribly wrong when she doesn’t have much to say.
If I notice it, I just say to myself, “silence is good, quiet is peaceful. If they’re comfortable I am comfortable.”
Good tip, thanks.
I was going to make my own comment but this hits the nail on the head. Civil discussion. They or you may be wrong but make your point and let them make theirs and may the strongest prevail.
Assert your point but don’t be mean.
Breathing air
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It’s true tho.
How to cook. Even if it is only a pair of eggs or a simple sandwich.
There are people that cant make a sandwich?
Ok, stupid story but when I was little I asked my mom for a PBnJ and she said she was busy and asked one of her friends to do it. I never met the guy and I don’t think I ever saw him again but he said, “alright” and we went to the kitchen. Dude started out solid. Two slices, spread on the peanut butter like a pro. What came next changed me forever. Dude pulls out the jelly and spreads it right on top of the peanut butter. I’m almost glad I never saw this guy again, straight psycho. Sandwich was 4/5 not life changing but good.
spreads the jelly on top of the peanut butter
Um. I mean, what did you expect him to do differently? A PBnJ is peanut butter and jelly on bread, so I don’t understand why the dude adding the jelly was upsetting.
Was there some particular way your mom usually made them that was different from what this dude did?
I’m really struggling to picture what was disturbing in this picture :(
Brah, if you don’t know, I can’t explain it.
Sewing
You’ll save yourself so much money and time mending clothes, blankets, and doing your own mods instead of buying new things.
Money, sure. Time. I’m not convinced.
You can mend holes in 5-15 minutes, it takes longer to find and buy new ones
I started mending my clothes a while back. I’m not great at it but for the most part it’s passable enough to wear out in public and the process of sewing it is actually really relaxing. It’s nice to be able to save something that would otherwise be tossed out. Also I was able to turn an old t-shirt into dust covers for some of my PC peripherals I don’t use all the time which I was pretty proud of.
Yeah, I have a pair of jeans where the crotch wore out recently. Took me ten minutes to add a double-seam to it. Saved me at least $50. (All by hand, no machine.)
It’s such a useful skill!
I’ve got a hoodie that looks like Frankenstein at this point but it’s my comfort clothes. I think all the stitches give it character.
I love not having to throw old things I love away. I have a Star Wars shirt I’ve worn hundreds of times over the last ten years and the pits are wearing away. I just keep stitching them up, but probably should just patch them.
I learned to sew in my early 50s. Very helpful. I also leaned to… solder (small electronics) which is also a great way to save a lot of money, and to generate so much less waste.
My wife laughs at me for mending clothes. I often darn socks, jeans, sweaters, etc. - takes about 10 minutes but dang, I just saved $80 on a new pair of jeans. DUH.
My jr high school made the boys take ‘home economics’ and the girls had to take shop class. We all thought it was a joke but, 40 years later, I can still sew and shank a button, fix a tear in jeans, and make a pan of muffins with the best of them.
Jeans maybe but socks would bother me soo much…
A properly darned sock doesn’t feel any different from a new sock. And if you match the color of the yarn, it can be nearly invisible.
I think visible mending is more fun – my husband’s socks have colorful little patches that make us both smile.
baiting…
Serious question. What’s with those fucking bait shops in the seedy parts of town. What the fuck is going on in there. Do they sell like baits that will catch magical fish but you have to like make a deal with the devil?
Worms pretty much grow themselves. It’s cheap money
I dunno, I usually go to the
candy shopmarijuana gummy dispensary shop for my bait…
At which point do you decide you’ve become a master and no longer a Padawan?
listening to the other(s).
The other what?
the other… persons.
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Meditation. It helps with self-control, emotional regulation, stress, and builds discipline. Screen addiction is real, and meditation helps.
Every time I’ve tried, I just end up sitting there.
Experiment with different techniques. There’s a method there that you can get a handle on.
What are the options?
We have 2 techniques. The Buddhists call them samatha and vipassana. They go by other names, in other traditions, too.
We start with samatha, because it’s easy. Just takes diligent effort.
In samatha you hold your attention upon a thing (called your “object”) as perfectly as you can for a time.
You can use pretty much anything as your object. But some work better than others and some work differently for different people.
So experimentation is called for there.
Popular objects are mantras (a repeated word), visualizations, sights (like a candle flame), sounds (the wind in the trees), the feeling of breath in the tip of your nose. Lots of room for experimentation there. I like that last one especially.
Here’s a nice overview : http://fleen.org/fluffy_cloud (he calls the techniques “shrink” and “grow”). A couple nice books on the subject are “Journey of Awakening” by Ram Dass and “Meditation, the First and Last Freedom”, by Osho.
Ultimately you will need to do your own research, perform your own experiments and become your own expert.Is there a variation for people who have aphantasia (assuming it’s talking about visualization)?
In that first technique you hold your attention on a thing as perfectly as you can for a time.
That thing can be a visualization or it can be any of a hundred other things.
My favorite is the feeling of breath in the tip of my nose. It’s a popular one. No visualization required there.
That’s kind of what it is. Just try to think of nothing. I just think about the air going into and out of my lungs.
Try living off grid, without power, phone, internet. Heat with a wood stove, carry your water. Then reflect on your standards for life.
I can already do that, I’m an autistic bastard that can make up languages for 14 hours a day and still have fun
Critical thinking
Empathy
