I’m definitely not doing okay considering I’ve got an appointment at the Mayo Clinic in March… but hey, the end of this month will be my six month anniversary of not eating any solid food. So hooray!
Oof…
Good luck at the Mayo Clinic, but I hear their Ketchup therapy leaves something to be desired.
I’m glad you got an appointment! I’ve been passively following your story through your comments and I’m rooting for you. I really hope you find answers soon!
Thank you!
I am legitimately trying to figure out why the fuck it is I am seemingly the only person in the world who is okay right now.
What the hell are you all doing or going through that is ruining your life, and how can I help alleviate your suffering?
This is why I shut down reddit once and for all. It was all ragebait, sad news, doom and gloom. They posted a very, very, very horrifying, very sad news on the frontend that affected me for weeks. You know when people post “That’s enough reddit for me for today”? I said “that’s enough reddit for me for good!”
Reddit used to be a fun place. I legitimately went there knowing that, five minutes in, I’d be laughing my ass off.
I can only imagine Twitter must be much, much worse.
Lemmy… hm, Lemmy is going down that path. I try to stick to my tech community subs, but every now and then I check the frontpage and, if it’s not a bunch of deadhorse memes, then it’s stuff like this “nobody is ok” post.
I’m almost convinced that an AI (or “dem illuminaccies”) are trying to bring the mood down on everyone on the internet, so it’s easier to harvest their organs or something.
Tbh I just want to work a job that can pay the bills and support a potential retirement. For so many of us this is all we want. We are willing to work, just not to some abhorrent degree or in wholly unreasonable, inhumane conditions. Many of us aren’t asking to become filthy rich, just rich enough that things like bills and a scraped knee don’t extend our retirement age another 20 years.
I’d have to say I’m doing alright myself. I don’t make a lot of money. I’m not happy with politics and other things in the world but I’m thankful for what I have and that I am okay. I actively work to make my life better in whatever ways I can. I’ve met tons of people who don’t and are unhappy.
I think people are unhappy are more likely to say something in response to something like the Elmo tweet rather than say “I’m doing great/good/alright.”
Many people don’t feel in control of their futures. In general, people in the “global South” have way fewer opportunities to start with. It doesn’t matter how hard you work if you live in a dictatorship. Or if you never had a good breakfast before math in primary school. Of if half of your waking hours are spent commuting in dilapidated busses packed with people.
These are in reality the hardest working people; every waking hour can be challenge if you are poor.
how can I help alleviate your suffering?
drugs and/or guillotines
I like you.
I think asking is good, and this may be worth getting into for other reasons - but know that this is a one way trip.
I’d suggest starting with the things that helped me unfuck my shit (partially, anyway!). First, if you haven’t already, check out Kurzgesagt’s Optimistic Nihilism video. If you find that interesting, continue on to absurdist philosophy, especially Camus (Sisyphus, Stranger) and Sartre (Nausea). After that, existentialism - I think I’d probably start with Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl.
Once you begin to get a feel for these ideas, I think a high-level reevaluation of deeply held beliefs and how you perceive the world around you becomes inevitable.
In terms of your question and what you are seeing, I believe these trends represent a larger collective awakening. Not a miracle, but something borne out of necessity: for anyone brave enough to take their head out of the sand for thirty seconds, environmental concerns alone are completely fucking overwhelming, and obviously that’s just a start.
I do take solace in this development, though. Somehow, even without actively studying philosophy, teens today (and even younger!) appear to have, to a degree, an intuitive understanding of these concepts. That’s wild! When I was in high school in the late 90s, genuinely thinking for yourself wasn’t tolerated the way it is today. Sure, there were punks and goths and whatever, but for anyone who dared to question the paradox of asserting one’s uniqueness through group affiliation, the road was much bumpier than it seems to be today.
I actually had to remind one of my children at around 10 years of age that she should be careful telling her peers things like “god isn’t real and nothing really matters” … admittedly she was raised in a “we always respect people with different beliefs even if we find it difficult to respect their beliefs” home, so the “god isn’t real” part wasn’t a surprise, but she found existentialism on her own.
Consider the complexity of the humour in memes today - I think a lot of older folks dismiss it as vapid and banal, and while some definitely lands there, the baseline tends to include a lot more irony, sarcasm, and even elements of these more abstract philosophical ideas in ways that older generations tend to struggle with. At first glance it appears completely nonsensical, but upon superficial understanding it quickly becomes “antisocial” and offensive: how dare you find camaraderie in joking about suicide, and do you really think the collapse of civilization would be a good thing? This is more than gallows humour.
And perhaps your comment was more flippant than my initial interpretation and this will just come across as obtuse and condescending - I hope not, as that is definitely not my intent. If it was sincere and you are just beginning down this path, I hope my perspective makes a difference for you. I suspect it is obvious, but my own experience with this was not pleasant; it took me many years to find my way through and feel ok about continuing, in the broadest sense. With a bit of discipline and thoughtfulness, I think you should be able to mitigate the psychological risks inherent in exploring some of the more fundamentally challenging implications of nihilism.
I’m sad there’s been virtually no snow all winter and I’m in Canada. That’s a bad sign. Ski slopes might as well close for good.
Same here. The mountain I frequent just put in a high speed lift, went operational Dec 24. After Christmas they got rain for at least a couple of days during break and I didn’t even try skiing then.
My kids went sledding one day last season and one day so far this season. The ground barely freezes so the mice and ticks will be in force come spring.
I’m in New England so further south but I do remember the times we had snowy Christmases and could skate on the ponds. Hopefully my kids might be able to experience that but I have my doubts, I doubt I will ever see that again.
I remember when I had to stuff a snowsuit beneath my Halloween costume. I only ever once saw a green Christmas in childhood, and now I don’t know the last time I saw a white one. This year we’ve had like a day of very mild snowfall and one fairly cold week, and it’s just pure mud out there and hovering around 3C. It isn’t good at all.
I live in Iowa but work remotely for a company in Minnesota - we got like 2 feet more snow than Minnesota did with the blizzard a few weeks back. The climate has been so crazy these last few months
Is that abnormal?
Minnesota is infamously cold. Iowa is famous for corn.
The last few winters my dad had to drive up to Minnesota when he wanted to snowmobile - we would have like 1 inch of snow while they had feet of it
For mental health, I hope this helps - vent your frustrations to the whole world little froggy:-).
My favorite will always be the scrooge one he did on Christmas Wednesday
Link? I saw Christmas but never a Scrooge one.
Though I felt like the death metal one fit the OP better:-).
OMG thank you for that experience!!! Ngl it had me in that first half… :-D
I don’t think I will ever be able to watch another YouTube video ever again, without half expecting this to occur again. Like lightning striking twice, it will almost never happen, but IF it did, dude IF it only would… :-P
Just the sound changing as he closes the window gets me every time.
Just to be a contrarian, I’m doing OK.
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don’t hate my job and make very decent money, pretty stable financially
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have a lovely wife and two healthy young kids
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decent apartment with plans for an energy positive house as the kids are growing
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fun family friendly car, cool gadgets at home, lots of toys to play with, endless entertainment online
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AI is making lots of tasks easier, will only get better
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robots and machines making home tasks easier as well
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live in a country with an acceptable government (that I didn’t vote for, but am OK with), universal Healthcare and strong social safety net
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medicine constantly improving
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china installing solar panels like maniacs, rapidly getting cheaper and more ubiquitous
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Middle East is as fucked as ever, nothing I can do about it
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Russia is always invading neighbors, and this time at least they got a fucking punch in the face
I’ve been much worse in the past.
You’re not okay, you lack empathy. Me as well, I have nothing to complain about, and I am able to enjoy life despite all the shit that’s wrong in the world, but I can read the room and don’t feel the need to rub that in people’s faces when clearly a lot of people are struggling. Also, I am sad for those people and frustrated that voting isn’t enough, while doing “enough” would mean giving up a large part of my comfortable life, not because that’s what it would take, but because too many people are doing jack shit to improve the world, or rather actively contributing to the clusterfuck that the world is in.
A lot of people are always struggling. Even in this thread you’ll see some people complaining about exisistential dangers and other people complaining about Netflix and Microsoft windows.
There have always been wars, sickness, hunger and suffering. We are probably near the minimum of all of those in this century. On a historical scale, a working poor today lives better than a king a thousand years ago, at least in most European countries. You have guaranteed shelter, high quality safe food, clean water, modern healthcare and all the knowledge of humanity in the palm of your hand (besides access to unlimited free education).
I vote my conscience, I pay my taxes (almost 40% of my income) and I even donate to local charities on top of that, but I refuse to let other people’s problems ruin my day every day.
It’s not lacking empathy, it’s setting limits and taking care of my own mental health.
it’s not about “letting other people’s problems ruin your day”, it’s about being content with your life without going on some online forum and announcing unasked in a thread about the growing existential problems of a large part of the world’s population that you’re doing great. Bless your heart, but that doesn’t help the people who are NOT doing great. That is what this thread is about, and that is my point.
You don’t know what helps or doesn’t help other people, speak for yourself. Nor do you decide what the thread is or isn’t about. Feel free to Downvote and move along if you don’t like it.
I’m doing OK.
How dare you!?
- Your quality of life is about to be destroyed when billions are made homeless through environmental disaster.
I don’t think so. Climate could be fixed and humans are resilient.
And even if so, nothing I can do to prevent it. Just enjoy the present.
What about your kids
My kids cannot do anything about it either, yet. I will teach them the best I can. Maybe they will want to get into politics and fix the mess, or just do the best they can. Use green solutions like bikes and public transport, recycle, etc.
what about them? OP is correct to teach his kids to live in the moment and not spend energy on things they can not change.
Very Stoic. Spend energy on things you can control and don’t on things you can’t.
Just wish I could get my anxiety brain to get on board with that.
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yeah. this may be a little better or worse depending on where you are in the planet but its grim.
i’m either wasting away at work all day every day because now bosses act like they own you too much and don’t owe you for what you do, or i’m a depressed and unemployed wasting away because i have no money to live.
not being able to afford anything for a seemingly infinite amount of meaningless work where you are not respected. that feeling we are just deluxe slaves working though the apocalypse. your worth is calculated based on how good of a slave you are.
capitalism enshitifying not only tech, but just about everything is getting ever more crappy expensive and disposable. we are on this hamster wheel where we need those expensive gadgets and a shitty app for everything, but they are expected to break soon so you need to pay for another and another and so on while contributing to the end of the planet because of it.
the fact we are products/cattle being monetized in all sorts of unhealthy ways and watched 24/7 by our own appliances. they use advanced psychology to control and make us submissive. dont you dare actually trying to improve things or we will you their vast surveillance network to strike you the fuck down.
culture of everyone being hyper individualistic, alienated and self centered (possibly including myself here) contrary to our nature. everyone has less and less friends, everyone is alone we hate on eachother because of distractions.
…and the internet is now a dopamine trap instead of the beautiful place for connection it used to be, but somehow everyone is way more dependent on it for socialization. corporations mediate our relationships and making us alone depressed and angry is more beneficial for them.
capital is literally destroying the planet, poisoning the air we breathe, turning it into an oven, killing massive amounts of life just so a handful of sociopathic people can be god-level powerful over us.
and the sheer amount of death being brought upon us by them for trivial reasons, like a convoluted way someone can have more shitty pieces of paper.
we cant afford to start families or even be completely financially independent. life is an eternal struggle for meaningless pieces of paper (more like stupid numbers on a shitty bank computer) and they are always finding new ways to oppress us financially and making us pay more for basic, low tech and low cost necessities that werent a problem for past generations to have.
we know we have no future, no love and no hope. we know we will starve or suffocate to death, but are being played on by the system to turn on eachother instead. the future is looking more and more like apocalypse-techno-dystopia.
and nothing we can immediatly do about any of it. people act like i am batshit insane for wanting to throw this shit away and have a revolution to remove our current kings. people immediatly try to excuse them even though their life garbage because our fear of change is probable being weaponized against us, like every single human instinct.
do i even need to keep going? you can tell i woke up with the wrong fucking foot today cant you?
Fuckin amen! I often think of what I could be doing with my life if I was financially independent. It just feels like so much of my time is just wasted at being at my job. It’s fuckin depressing…
Somethings gotta give soon…
All I can say is you’re not alone and I really wish I could give you a hug right now, friend. :(
I got this favorite literary passage for you though. I think we all ought to hear it a bit more often:
Frodo: I can’t do this, Sam…
Sam: I know! It’s all wrong! By rights we shouldn’t even be here. But we are. It’s like in the great stories Mr. Frodo. The ones that really mattered. Full of darkness and danger they were, and sometimes you didn’t want to know the end. Because how could the end be happy? How could the world go back to the way it was when so much bad happened? But in the end, it’s only a passing thing, this shadow. Even darkness must pass. A new day will come. And when the sun shines it will shine out the clearer. Those were the stories that stayed with you. That meant something. Even if you were too small to understand why. But I think, Mr. Frodo, I do understand. I know now. Folk in those stories had lots of chances of turning back only they didn’t. Because they were holding on to something.
Frodo: What are we holding on to, Sam?
Sam : That there’s some good in this world, Mr. Frodo. And it’s worth fighting for.
Let’s remember this was written by a fellow who survived the hellish trenches of WW1. A conflict that felt ridiculously pointless for all the bloodshed it caused.
Here we are in our own figurative trenches. We are weathering our own crisis after crisis, wondering if it’s all worth it in the end. “But in the end, it’s only a passing thing, this shadow.”
We can’t give up and give in to despair, because friends, family, people we don’t even know, need us to all keep each other going. Our time will come. Don’t give up on exposing this nonsense in the most loving way you can, showing people alternatives, and building the resistance to State and corporate tyranny. One changed mind at a time.
I need to read Lord Of The Rings again. That was beautiful.
As someone who has kids who are now just becoming “adults,” “that funny feeling” just keeps getting worse. I worry they’ll never be able to afford houses or families of their own and with the constant rising costs, we won’t have anything to even leave them. I wish I could bury my head in the sand and think everything will be just fine, but I can’t anymore.
Let’s see my list of anxiety:
- Climate Change
- The rise of fascism (and being in a marginalized group targeted by fascists)
- Inflation eating into my earnings and savings
- The entire marketplace being dominated by broken, fake or scam services and products.
- Pretty severe imposter syndrome and the related feeling that my job mobility is bad because I’m not valuable.
- Anxiety and ADD feeling worse than ever and having little hope to get help treating it.
God damnit. Am I leaving comments from alt accounts in my sleep again?
All this and also my roof is also leaking because my fucking landlord only gets hack fixes from a fucking handyman instead of maintaining my goddamn home
Document it and withhold rent until it’s remedied properly. Is there a tenant union in your area you could reach out to for assistance and guidance?
Small comfort, but the thing with Fascism is that it is a cult of power. Nobody is safe, anyone can be targeted, including those who support it most fervently. Anyone with half a brain knows that under fascism they’re one week and whim from being the next target, so know that you aren’t alone.
It’s certainly frustrating to watch people who would definitely end up in camps supporting the fascist take-over of their country. But they think they’re special and unique and the face-eating leopard won’t eat their face.
Nobody on X is doing okay. People forget that’s just one of the social media and it’s taken a turn for the worse. Lem is mostly chill.
mostly, excluding .ml and kbin accounts, those people need to chill the fuck out.
(not literally everyone, obviously. they just have a tendency to be very passionate)
Hey! I’m from .ml and I sorta take some offense at that! I think, does anyone know?
I’m from the generic instance so my opinion is irrelevant anyway also I’m probably a bot beep boop
Lol this is literally that “so controversial yet brave” meme and I agree I’ve noticed the same. Kbin gets passionate af about random topics with ml it seems to be more political but everyone please correct if I’m wrong
its seldomly kinda funny how your chosen instance has become an object of judgement and hate here.
i chose mine completely randomly and i bet a huge chunk of users did too.
Maybe a better title, “nobody perpetually on social media is ok right now”.
Yeah, I for one am pretty ok. Family is good, work is okay, can’t complain about much.
Which sounds weird to write. Maybe that’s why nobody writes “I’m allright” and you just read about people complaining.
It’s just people on social media though. Everyone is having a hard time.
We work too long for meaningless jobs; we don’t get time for hobbies, ourselves, or with our families; we can’t afford housing or groceries; we’re either stuck in traffic or on the way to being stuck in traffic; all our information is being sold to companies so that they can force more ads into our faces…
Life sucks right now for everyone because that’s just how the people in charge want it to be for us.
Buy this car to drive to work; drive to work to pay for this car.
Vote for a government that will build a decent public transportation network, take the bus or tram to work, save money, read a book. Or lemmy.
I’ve been working harder at work for a promotion. I’m not going to get it. I fucking hate work, it’s not particularly hard, it’s just unfulfilling and boring. I dread work every day. I would go somewhere else but hate interviewing because even for 1 job it’s at least 4 interviews and tests. I can’t afford to take a cheaper job. I took today off though so that’s nice.
Enjoy the day off
Work to live, not live to work
You are going to suffer every day just to avoid 4 interviews?
I interview for a new job every now and then, like twice a year, even tho I don’t hate my job.
It’s a fun process that can only go well (worst case, everything stays the same) and you practice your interview skills. And you get a first hand peek into the job market to help you negociate your current job conditions. And you get to know new people, companies, processes and technologies.
If you’ve been working hard at work to get a promo, it’s probably time to get that promo, but externally. You’ll probabaly get better pay that way too.
When putting together your resume, remeber to use the xyz format for your job successes “achieved x, doing y, with z results”. This helps provide hiring managers and recruiters an idea of your performance and what type of results you can likely deliver for their team.
My random list
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climate change, I live in BC and summers are literally apocalyptic, ash raining from the sky and can’t even see the sun
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loss of biodiversity which is plainly obvious with every passing year. Recently drove to Alaska without having to clean bugs off windshield
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clearcut forest no matter where you look
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never getting my own house despite “doing everything right” and well above average income
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one bag of groceries is like $100
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never having kids or a family, obvious reasons
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no real friends since I graduated college, social media ruined everything
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friends I had are priced out and are thousands of km away, or dead
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housing so fucked that I have spent the last five years looking for a rental that allows a cat and still looking, I feel like if I just had a cat I would be so much happier
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aging population and constantly going to funerals
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various addictions I’ve lost control over since pandemic
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cost of travel increasing exponentially so that’s coming to an abrupt end too
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impossible to go outside without reminder of total societal collapse, teslas cruising around on streets full of homeless people
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haven’t seen a doctor in years because there are none
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have to go to work in 10 minutes but didn’t get a wink of sleep last night or the night before it
You’re not whiny. Don’t denigrate yourself the way boomers bullied you to. Your feelings and concerns obviously do matter.
Maybe later I’ll edit the post with a list of things I’m grateful for because there are a lot of them, too
hi! it’s been about three hours since you posted this. you doing better?
Appreciate you checking in, I actually called out sick today and going to spend the day in the forest to recharge a bit.
I need to be doing that more often. Thanks for the inspiration.
It’s a great exercise on mindfulness which is incredibly important at least for my brain. Rather than trying to hike the longest distance sometimes it’s better to sit completely still for an extended period of time and allow the birds to get used to your presence. It’s quite humbling when the patience pays off.
Hey if you ever end up getting a place that allows cats, please get two. When you are away at work they can socialize with each other. I’m not saying having only one cat is animal abuse or anything, it’s just better to have two.
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nobody’s ok right now
This was a Twitter post, so of course no one who replied is ok, they’re Twitter users.
I’m doing ok and I hope for the best for all the rest of you who are struggling
Let’s see, I’m a month away from being $500 short on rent. Me and my wife separated this year after 3 years. I’m a single parent of a two year old. I was diagnosed with autism and panic disorder last august at the age of 35. My mom died of a fentanyl overdose in 2021, two weeks before my son was born. I’ve been dealing with work burnout after working in food/retail management during Covid, the lockdown, and customers cussing me out over Covid policies and being disgusting in general. I changed jobs, hate the current job, still burnt out. And I’ve had Covid 3 times and my lungs haven’t been the same since the first time.
I’m honestly doing OK. I’ve found my passion for my hobbies again and am feeling confident I can weather this
Sorry to dump all that on you . It’s like therapy.
Seems like you’re focusing the good, more power to ya. I’d say it gets better, but that’s a crapshoot, you can however learn to cope better, be well.
I’m certainly trying
He hasn’t read this many disturbing responses since he was introduced to Sesame Street in the first place.
