Do you think 21-, 22- and 23-year-old women and men should be allowed to consent to sex with older adults 10-20 years older than them? Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. One could argue that an adult in their 40s or 50s who chooses to date someone 21-23 or 22-24 deserves to die. I have heard these arguments before.
What do you think?
Bro, are you ok? Your post history to date is actually really concerning.
To answer your question, no, I don’t think raising the age of consent to your early to mid 20s is a good idea. Is the relationship dynamic in what you describe probably kinda fucked? Yeah. But adults get to make adult decisions, no matter how others may feel about.
Your post history shows a worrying obsession with age gap relationships. But in previous posts, you thought a 21-23 year old guy dating older men was fine, you even argued that young people in such relationships were NOT victims. What is that made you suddenly decide it’s wrong and the older people in the relationship “deserve to die”?
Are you by any chance a 21-, 22- or 23-year old fawning over someone dating someone older than the both of you?
I find women older than me more attractive and I usually get on better with them. Is there a problem with that? If I choose to date someone older than me its not hurting anyone or breaking any laws. Is there anything more to say on the matter?
If you are 26+, it’s fine to date who you want. I’m talking about women who are 21, 22, 23 and 24 years old. Should they be allowed to date much older men who are in their 40s or 50s?
Do you think these older men deserve to die?
It’s interesting that the phrasing here is that the younger people shouldn’t be allowed to date the older people. The issue with this kind of age gap is the imbalance of power, and whether you realize it or not you’ve just placed the stigma at the feet of the person who’s most likely to be victimized.
Anyway, banning this kind of thing doesn’t work. It happens at a scale that would likely be unenforceable, not to mention that rebellious people will do things because they’re banned
A better approach to harm reduction is education. Meet people where they’re at without shame and explain the risks realistically. And even then, some people just won’t learn until experience teaches them
At the end of the day, if your daughter wants to work out her daddy issues by getting railed by an older man, no amount of pearl clutching is going to prevent that
One of the wonders of being an adult is that our peers stop being limited to people who are the same age as us. Now in my late twenties, I have friends 10 years younger than me, and 20 years older.
Dating is different than friendship. But it’s not so fundamentally different that I’d feel weird about dating an adult in those age brackets. Is it more likely I’m going to date someone closer to my age? Sure. On average, they’d be more likely to be in a point in their life that I’m looking for, but it’s not a guarantee.
I’m a bit above your age bracket in question, so I’ll comment on what advice I might give to a friend in that age bracket. Were a friend of mine to be thinking about getting involved with someone 20 years their senior, I’d tell her to think carefully. She should spend some time thinking about what she wants from a relationship. If she’s still interested in going out late and drinking, or she likes raves, I might say she should consider whether her potential partner is still looking to have those things in their life. The opposite too, if she’s the “comfy book and a movie at home” type of gal, is she wanting to be with this partner who’s super into going out adventure biking all the time. I’d tell her to think carefully about why she’s interested in this person, but also what this person sees in her.
On average, people gain some level of “maturity”/“wisdom”/life experience/je ne sais quoi about them as they get older. On average, people tend to date people who are similar to them in some ways. On average, partners will have similar levels of this vague term for aged distinction that I lack a term for. Relationships that don’t follow this pattern are, then, unusual. Not bad or wrong, necessarily. My left ear is substantially asymmetrical from my right. That’s unusual, but not a problem, except I have to be careful when finding earbuds that fit both ears properly. Similarly, those who date with large age gaps like this are unusual. Not inherently bad, but with some things to look for. It is more common that these sorts of relationships have some sort of unhealthy dynamic. Maybe that’s a predatory power dynamic, or financial inequality, or just some skeevy 40 year old who thinks “coeds are hot sex toys, especially when they have daddy issues”. Or, maybe they just both REALLY like boats. Like, they met when they both learned they were building a to-scale hand crafted replica of Viking longships, and it was a wonderful match for them. Or, maybe they both have a kink for plastering lizard scales on themselves, putting on goggles, sunning themselves on the patio, and then fucking like rabbits. The reasons they can find love for one another are many, and are not mine to limit, or to judge. I can judge them, mind you. If their relationship is based on how much they both love drowning puppies, they’re awful people. But that’s who they are, not who they love. That’s different.
This entire question reeks of incel. “If I can’t get pussy, nobody else can!” Stfu and go back to your hole.
Me thinking older men should not date young women who are in their early to mid 20s is “incel”?
Sounds like you are trying to justify pedophila and predatory abusive behavior.
You putting so much thought into who other people are fuckin is what’s incel about you. Why do you give a fuck?
Is some chick your sinping over fuckin an old guy, so you go crying to the internet about how the government needs to step in? Should they assign you a wife too? Fuckin loser
dude your profile is full of nothing but questions about age of consent, age differences and weird questions about being a virgin, take your shit somewhere else.
The dumbest question I’ve read today.
Allowed by who, the government? The National Ministry of Dating? The Police?
What sorts of punishments should be appropriate for dating beyond the statistically arbitrary numerical age gaps?
You can see why there’s push back to this concept, right?
Now I’m curious how such a legislation would even look like. I mean, dating isn’t even a legally defined term. Is it OK if they don’t have sex? What if they’re not exclusive? And is oral allowed between consenting adults with a large age gap?
I’m having a hard time imagining any legislation that doesn’t begin with a preamble that defines all acts that are and aren’t covered by this legislation.
And even if someone somehow managed to craft this legislation in legally sound language that won’t be challenged in court by arguments such as “it was only a fling and nothing serious”, seeing cases about enforcing it would be fucking hilarious. “These are serial daters with a history of large age gaps, so we called the swat units to put a stop to it before they hurt anyone”
If you are 26+, it’s fine to date who you want. I’m talking about women who are 21, 22, 23 and 24 years old. Should they be allowed to date much older men who are in their 40s or 50s?
Do you think these older men deserve to die?
Weird.
I think “OP’s account is 12 days old and they were recently banned from showerthoughts following several posts about this topic, bye”
This is why I have a habit of checking the modlogs before I engage especially if the posts are weird like this
Why 21? 18 year olds are free to date whoever they want. That is the legal age of majority in most places. Also who cares?
Who are you, their parents?
Allowed by who? Do you ask the rest of society if you can wipe your ass left-handed?
It always staggers me when these kinds of ideas get floated around.
Every adult has the right to determine their own destiny. Full stop.
Same thing we thought the last 12 times you asked.
Adults are allowed to make their own choices, and others are allowed to be creeped out by it. Statistically, when one person is much older, it results in a toxic one-sided relationship, but not always.
Either way, it is nobody’s business.
Statistically, when one person is much older, it results in a toxic one-sided relationship
If this chance is high then why should it be allowed?
Same reason people are allowed to date cops. Free Will wins, despite the increased risk of danger.
Because the job of society is not to keep anyone from ever making a mistake. If people aren’t allowed to make and learn from mistakes, they can never deepen their self understanding or grow.
Because it’s none of your business who consenting adults choose to date.
