• tetris11@lemmy.ml
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    What’s a topic you could talk for hours about, and are you capable of summarizing it for a lay person?

    (it shows that they’re interesting, so when the looks fade with time you still have something to talk about, and it shows they’re capable of not just parroting what they hear but internalizing it, and more importantly: coming down to meet you half way, the epitome of compromise through mutual dialogue)

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    What are your finances like? I don’t mean you need to be rich, I mean you need to be responsible. I tied my finances to a crazy person and I’ll never get free and that’s my biggest regret.

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    *Does 5 minute long surrealist interpretive dance wile forcing and maintaining direct eye contact*

    Me: And your answer is?

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    If you won the lottery, what’s the first irresponsible thing you’d do with the money?

    No paying off student loans, no buying your parents a house. It has to be irresponsible but not necessarily indefensible. Great icebreaker question.

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      Invite a bunch of people i think ill want to stay my life out for pizza. It will be hawaiian pizza. In hawaii.

      Ill send drivers, they will only need to grab travel documents.

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      I’d buy vast swathes of land in the countryside, and just make it a homeless refuge. They can erect a tent town if they want, host festivals, do farm work for money. Whatever, they’re protected from the police.

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        I’ve had similar thoughts, but also then I was worried about legal liability if there’s drugs, violence, arson (not saying homeless are bad - these things happen even amongst middle aged middle class people)

        I prefer to become a big benefactor of a charity that does good work and attend the board meetings.

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          Oh they might definitely do these things, but mainly they will drive the local rent and house prices down, so it’s still a win-maybewin

    • bionicjoey@lemmy.ca
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      “Do you think your opinion about pineapple on pizza is a personality trait? 'Cause I sure don’t”

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        Besides missing the extremely obvious joke, the question wasn’t even about personality traits, it was about compatibility.

        Maybe we can make an extension that puts “/s” after everything for you

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    “What is the greatest value a person should seek ?” and try to understand their point of view. Tell yours and see if they understand it. It doesn’t have to be the same, just both need to accept each other’s point of view.

    My answer - humility

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    “What are your values and political views?” Compatibility on that subject is quite important IMHO.

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      I disagree with you on politics, I don’t think that is important to a relationship if the people involved are able to discuss and disagree about ideas amicably. Unfortunately that seems increasingly less common in our modern society as algorithm-based social media continues to push people further into their respective echo-chambers. Of course, I am not here to tell you that you can’t look for that in a partner, I just don’t think the concept of political compatibility should universally apply to every relationship or even a majority of relationships.

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        If both mostly don’t care and don’t engage in politics, I agree with you or take (and usually that’s true for the majority); but in times of crisis, politics impose itself to people and that can be a major issue in a relationship. And in this century we will have a lot of crisis to deal with.

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        Many political questions are reasonable to disagree on but many others are also ethical ones with gaps that cannot be bridged.

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          Nah I definitely disagree with that statement. It is absolutely possible to maintain a healthy relationship with someone whose perspective on ethical issues differs to your own.

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    Which distro you use on your PC and which custom ROM you use on your phone. If the response is a big question mark on their face then I’m moving to the next person in an imaginary line.

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        I don’t know about that… Rebecca Black OS was the first to be Wayland by default, and continues to be a cutting edge test bed for it.

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    Don’t you have anything better to do than fill out this survey?

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    1. Would you want to engage in a Star Trek-like, alien-inspired sex activity?

    2. What are your top 5 movies? One of them must be The Shawshank Redemption.