Hello, my name is Cris. :)

I like being nice to people on the internet and looking at cool art stuff

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  • That’s incredibly important too! I think people would be hesitant to work for even decent donations if people are assholes, but you’re 100% right. I guess it really comes down to appreciating the people around you

    You should appreciate the humans that create this social space by being here and being social, and appreciate the people who create this social space by building the space itself

    Thank you for making that point, people being paid makes a huge difference.


  • And yet, it was created by communists, and populated with all sorts of people, socialists, anarchists, liberals, communists, libertarians, punks (particularly of the solar variety), ai/crypto bros and more

    There are very clearly lots of people here who don’t already share your views, and who are here for different reasons, and the antagonistic, wildly presumptive way you’re voicing your perspective just guarantees that exactly zero people come to see your perspective better.

    As someone who at least largely identifies with anarchism, please stop being a dick, you’re doing a disservice to the humans you share this space with, and the causes you care about simultaneously. This platform is not exclusively yours just because you identify with its structure for political reasons.











  • Systemd is fine but I am kinda sad that it’s ubiquity has resulted in increasing dependence on it.

    I really like void linux which uses runit and it seems like its getting harder for things to work without systemd. Gnome made some changes fairly recently that increase dependence, I hope devs can build ways for gnome to still work :/

    My only real criticism is that using runit makes me feel like systemd could be a lot smaller and more elegant. But using systemd has never caused me any problems as best I’m aware 🤷‍♂️





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    While that is true, and the hate for any religious practice or belief on lemmy is a bit grating (I’m an atheist), my best friend grew up in the witnesses and was robbed of the only family and community she had ever known when she was excommunicated, because she accepted baptism at like 12 or some shit. Which is a totally appropriate age to be putting all of your support systems and your literal family on the line if you ever change religious perspectives or realize you’re gay.

    She’s now married to her childhood best friend; they had a very cute gay wedding.

    It is good that they are generally nice folks. It is fucked up that they think that is an okay thing to do to children. Robbing children of their families for accepting something they were too young to understand is frankly disturbing.


  • The trick is having people with whom it is safe to voice negative thoughts and opinions. Generally it’s the same people who confide in you. There are also other ways to vent that pressure a little bit in the short term, but expressing that negativity to other people is not really replacable.

    For guys (as I assume you are), this can be very hard to find, or to build these kinds of relationships for cultural reasons, but it is fundamentally necessary to being an emotionally healthy person.

    You voice the small negatives on an ongoing basis so they don’t pile up to the point that they’re explosive.

    Getting a therapist, so you have someone you’re paying to hear your negative thoughts and feelings can make it easier to start. Its often hardest at the beginning because when you first start voicing the things you’ve bottled up ongoing, the intensity will generally be higher than is pleasant for people to be around, and you kinda have to let off enough emotional pressure for a while before the intensity comes down. A therapist could be helpful in doing that without having to unpack the culturally ingrained masculine discomfort with vulnerable or uncomfortable emotions (in some ways, in other ways therapy is harder. But it’s private and comes without the normal social expectations of being positive)

    Good luck! This is a really hard thing to work through for a lot of men, as a society we really set men up to fail in this way