I mean, like, my sister’s ex-friend engages in abusive behaviors but claims to want to help people in bad situations (only non-autistic people) , doesn’t want to hate others or autistic people but does, and really is fond of kids and animals. Why? I know that kids and animals are considered to be more innocent and naive, but helping others? To gain a better publicity? Why?

    • Aurora@lemmy.mlOP
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      1 month ago

      Ashlyn really likes sports, but she found out one day that Lena does not. Ashlyn got mad at Lena for being bad at sports despite not playing, tried to hurt(?) Lena multiple times by throwing the ball at her face/head, etc. She also expects Lena to catch a ball that she throws way over her head, behind her or in a completely different direction (Ex: If Ashlyn throws to a girl who is standing across the room from Lena and way to the right, she expects Lena to catch it, not the other girl).

      Ashlyn has talked behind her back and started fights with Lena multiple times, threatening to kick her out of the friend group permanently and never speak to her again. Often, the reasons will be for petty stuff such as: not liking her disorder, not liking her tics, not liking her stutter, saying hi to her, or confusing one word for another (ex: saying “instigating” instead of “antagonizing”).

      After “throwing Lena away”, so to speak, she then acts really nice and really wants Lena to talk to her again. Lena has gotten used to this by now, I’m sure.

  • NutinButNet@hilariouschaos.comEnglish
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    1 month ago

    Thinking it could be one of three possible things:

    • they do it to make up for the horrible things they do, or to cover that up and give people less of a reason to assume they’re an awful person, deep down

    • everyone loves children/animals/people with special needs, including some horrible people. Even if you’re a serial rapist, I’m sure you may still have a soft spot when it comes to a friendly dog as most normal, not so horrible people feel too

    • it gives them an avenue to commit more horrible acts because these are all groups of people and creatures that can’t exactly fight back nor speak up for themselves, making them ripe targets for abuse

  • yesman@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    Let go of the idea that bad/good people do bad/good things. Abuse isn’t a personality type, it’s a behavior.