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My advice is that she get help from a therapist that specializes in cluster B personality disorders. Preferably all of them 'cuz holy fuck.
Everybody is like “This is totally rage bait!” and while, yes, it probably is, this is more common than you’d think. My step-dad tried everything to get my mom to give me up. And treated me like shit. She stayed with him and had two kids by him, but I grew up being treated like an afterthought by both of them. Now I’m 30 and no contact with my mom, meanwhile he’s six feet under. And he deserved it.
Man… excuse my French, but your mother is… I would rather not say it…
A bitch
he tried everything to give you up except for leaving the fucking relationship apparently.
Comedy writes itself sometimes.
Is this loss?
You’d think they’d talk about this before she got pregnant.
Not enough real world social engineering dating experience leads to this… as it did with me as well.
So the poor guy can escape? Nah gotta chain him before you reveal how horrible you are.
Gotta be trolling, right? Right?
Yeah, the fiancé misspellings give it away, too intentional.
It also seems like they want someone to reply “*fiancé” so people can reply in turn like “out of all the problems you could have with this story…”
It might be, but the wicked step-parent stereotype is unfortunately very grounded in reality.
Well, those pregnancy hormones can bring on some unhinged thought patterns but this is Disney villain levels.
Was this on Reddit? I know there are some communities there that actively reward users with upvotes for ragebaitey content.
Oh you mean all of them?
Yep, reddit content… just thought it was intersting.
I know we are the BetterThanReddit website, but let’s not act like Lemmy is immune from this
Lemmy isn’t any better than reddit is.
People probably post ragebait here too, but there’s a built-in incentive on Reddit, particularly on subreddits like AITA or the Tenth Dentist, where users are encouraged to up vote the most ‘interesting’ posts, even if they find it offensive. Maybe the equivalents here also have this policy, but upvotes mean a lot more on Reddit than here—some subreddits require a high amount of karma to post, and posting something that’s guaranteed to get passed around and upvoted a ton can get people enough karma to make many more posts, have a buffer in place in case a different comment gets downvoted, or just want a lot of karma for bragging rights. Hell, you can even monetize upvotes now, in some cases.
Here on Lemmy, upvotes mainly just pass your content around for the sake of passing it around. Maybe there’s an algorithm that is more likely to push an unrelated post you made to the top, but the benefits for posting ragebait here aren’t as many as they are on Reddit.
Is she a telenovela character?
Or maybe a bear or something
I hope she talks to him and he has a chance to file for sole custody of his son. She isn’t ready to be a mom and will mess her bio kid up as well.
Folks, use protection.
Hey, shit happened to me as well… deadbeat obese mom…
Buuut, I wanted him to have his mom by his side… no matter how offputting and lazy she is… so, we make it work (kinda… not really… I do it for the kid, OK 😭?!).
Hey, it goes a long way to hug your kids and them how much you love em. Just make sure that you aren’t killing yourself slowly by being in a situation that isn’t sustainable.
Of course, I do it every time and at every occasion I get 😊. I love him to death 😊.
That doesn’t mean I’m not strict. He knows the rulebook, we draw and make shapes and color before TV or whatnot… not that his mom taught him any of that 🤬. She just switches on the TV and call it a day.
Anyway, he still loves having her arround… for moral support or whatever… and he sees other kids do fun stuff with mom and dad, and he wants that as well… and he has only dad in that scenario, but mom is still around… mostly… with a cigarette in her mouth and on her phone doomscrolling 😒… but yeah, she is present.
I am trying not to kill myself solwly by focusing on the kid, what he wants to do and finds interesting, so that keeps my mind off current events… it works… for the time being…
sounds like you’re doing a good job being a dad, kids lucky to have you :)
I hope I am… I really do… I think I’m doing OK, but I always consult other people and elderly people that have raised at least a few kids, and then kinda make my own mash of all of the info, take into account my son’s personality and come up with a “formula”… it is a lot of work though, parrenting didn’t really come naturally to me, I really had no idea how to approach a baby from a psychological development perspective. Diapers, eating, cuddling, cramps, that stuff’s easy. Starting to teach him things, that was the hard part for me… quite frankly, I was lost… she was freaking nowhere to be found regarding this, so I had no help from her… so I just started watching people in the park with babies, while we were having a stroll, do what they are doing with their kids. That was my starting point, and it was hard, but it got easier as I got more into it 😊.
hell yea man, like I said, kids lucky to have a dad that tries as hard as you do :)
Dude, you have some serious decisions to face that you’ve been putting off. Don’t hide behind “doing it for my child,” make good decisions that are right for you and in the end they’ll be good for your kid too, whether or not there’s short term pain.
Giving a young person two sets of perspective is often as valuable as having a stable nuclear family. Good work.
I have a shit mom and a great dad. They got divorced when I was fairly young. I still have a relationship with both of them, but thank god for my good dad because I’m not sure I would be an okay person without him. One good parent can be enough to keep you sane. So keep it up, you can do it :)
Man, is that guy screwed. What a horrible, horrible person. And he’s having a kid with her so she’s going to be in his life even if he bailed on the marriage (which I hope he did).
I like to think “faincé” use pronounced like “fancy”.
Some people shouldn’t have children.
I drink a lot. Mostly to forget.
But sometimes I drink so much, I don’t remember what I was trying to forget.
Now I remember.
I need a drink.
jokes aside please don’t let this shit be real
Bait
100%. People like this exist, but they’re rare and they know better than to admit to this shit blatantly.
Are they that rare? And do they really know to keep things like this under wraps? It seems like our social filters have all gone out the window the last eight years.
She can’t spell fiancé correctly despite several attempts and having autocorrect. I think it’s entirely possible that she’s just dumb, selfish and insecure.
Yeah, there’s a reason fairytales like “cinderella” exist
I don’t care if it’s ragebait, bluntly, anyone who gets into a relationship with someone who has children, and you’re “not the step-parent type”… Break off the relationship and dig a hole. Go lay in it and let the earth retake you. You’re more valuable as fertilizer than as a person.
That sounded really really good 👍.
Sounds like she is exactly a stepparent type. Wanting to get rid of your partner’s child is common in monogamous animals. That said, it could be very real and you are absolutely right. She should be getting rid of herself.
Just goes to show you, we’re not that far from animals.
I mean we are. Yesterday saw a video of a male macaque waterboarding a juvenile much much smaller than him. Usually males do this type of stuff to kill the child so that the mother is able to reproduce again sooner. And thus increase his chances of reproduction. Except this one, was just doing it out of either play, or to assert dominance. Possibly both. Primates are creatively cruel too.
Yeah, that is true for primates.
But I have seen a female wolf raise a fox IRL (I have a cottage in a small village in the mountains). They are prey to each other (not really, but if there is nothing else to eat, wolves will hunt and kill a fox as well), but I saw the mother with the fox and the rest of her siblings, she made no distinction raising her biological children and the fox. I gave them food sometimes and I saw her raise them in real time. I’m still amazed by that gesture… and we think of them as animals while us that kill for no reason at all are “civilized”… at least they kill for food…
Yeah it’s amazing when resources are bountiful, and animals share them. But foxes and wolves are not the sadistic primates. So I am not surprised. It is so wholesome.
You hear about these people once in a while but to see one actually write it out for everyone to see is a new low
