So, I’m gay and this is my first relationship. Just recently started having sex. I’ve never had any interest in the penetrating side of things. I’m on the “passive” side. I have no idea what the average is, but my bf can only go for up to 10 mins tops. It seems short to me. Maybe it’s cause I have no previous experience and all I know is from online stuff. Sorry if it’s a dumb question. I don’t know if I should mark this as NSFW or not.
For me, having sex is synonymous with trying not to cum. That’s literally the only thing I’m focusing on which is also one of the reasons I don’t enjoy it.
My ex was like that and our sex life got 10x better when I told him to stop doing that. It became 5-10 minutes of powerful intimacy that was a million times more satisfying to me, versus 30 min of just-ok dicking. He said he enjoyed it a lot more too.
wow… is that how it’s like for the guy doing the penetrating? Sounds very stressful.
Not for all men ofcourse. It’s more of a mental thing I believe. You can just as well overthink yourself into not being able to cum or maintain an erection.
I’m not gay, but I usually don’t last longer than a few minutes when I’m penetrating.
Made sex suck for a long time, until I realized I’m doing it wrong.
Now, instead of stressing out about how long I last, I just make sure my partner is satisfied before I even enter.