• NewNewAugustEast@lemmy.zip
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    4 days ago

    Nobody in either of my kids schools get bullied. It hasn’t been an issue for 20 years. It doesn’t take a lot of effort either. Kids just don’t see the point, they have better things to do.

    If you make an effort you can shut that shit down.

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      3 days ago

      Good for your kids I guess. That experience is not universal. My nephew has had repeated issues with it.

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        No its not universal. Its depressing other schools won’t make the effort and I only said it because I am hoping people realize it doesn’t have to be this way.

        A school, parents, and community can try and focus kids attention on being better. But they don’t. Hell many communities and parents are becoming worse.

        I got involved because I had good reason to think my kids would have been targets.

        Edit: I am not stupid, I know it occurs, but it is infrequent. They schools make equity and inclusiveness a cornerstone of education. Well at least they did, who know what will happen now.

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      Nobody in either of my kids schools get bullied. It hasn’t been an issue for 20 years.

      Maybe your kids went to a unicorn of a school, but most schools have some sort of bullying problem, whether it’s about queer issues, race, economic status or even just an ordinary name. If the school allows it, bullies will exist and find something, anything to bully passive kids over.

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        No. The opposite of that.

        The schools make a safe place to go to school part of the curriculum. They do not turn a blind eye. They also don’t threaten punishment, but encourage inclusiveness. Of course that is WOKE now so most other schools are going to ramp up the bullying.

        I talked to my kids and their friends many times over the years, and was surprised because it is so different than what I had.

        They just don’t even see the point in harassing anyone, it has no value to them, and they never get harassed either.

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          And then everyone started clapping

          More likely your kids and their friends were the bullies. That’s why you never heard about it lol

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            Whatever. Actually I was asking them because they very much are the kids that might have been bullied.

            I get it, nobody wants it to go away or be addressed. If someone like me says it can be better it’s jokes and no it can’t.

            And that’s why it is a problem.

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      No. Down voting is disagreeing with bullying hasn’t been a thing for 20 years. Many people here have been bullied in the last twenty years. Heck, at my kid’s school there was a bullying incident that caused quite a stir a couple of years ago. Unfortunately, the district no longer has any tools to deal with it if the restorative justice model doesn’t bring all the parties to the table. The parents, from what I hear, said it was a boys will be boys thing. And I know of at least one person who withdrew their child in no small part due to this.

      So I agree that bullying is probably way down from when I was a kid, but to say it isn’t a thing because you have no awareness of it is a little self centered.

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        I am not saying it doesn’t exist, I don’t want to imply that.

        What I was trying to say, is it doesn’t have to. Maybe I should have made that more clear. The schools my kids went to made it a priority to make it go away, and they succeeded. They did what you do with all kids, you move their attention and reward the good behaviors. They have a large age difference so this spawns many years.

        It is so depressing that other schools throw up their hands and just say kids will be kids. My whole point wasn’t to say it doesn’t happen, but that it CAN be better.