• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
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      2 months ago

      Kids are fantastic when you have time to care for them and a nightmare when you don’t.

      I’ve spent twenty years in my profession and four years as a parent. There are plenty of days I wake up and think about my job and question my life choices. Never been a minute when I’ve regretted bringing kids into my home and making their lives as happy and fun as I can manage.

        • YappyMonotheist@lemmy.world
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          2 months ago

          What does ‘awful’ mean here? Are you trying to say that they’re perhaps the responsibility with the highest degree of difficulty you’ll ever do, which is reasonable (but should be expressed differently)? That at times they don’t know morality and prosociality too well… as if they didn’t just come out of the oven? Or that they’re all chilling in Epstein’s Island/part of Project 2025?

  • Sibbo@sopuli.xyz
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    2 months ago

    There’s a medium happy “being pregnant” missing in the middle :)

    But congratulations. Advice from my wife: take all the pain medication they offer you

  • YappyMonotheist@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    A good friend of mine had her first recently at the age of 36 and it all went well! And she hasn’t complained about the pain and physical consequences as much as she has about sleeplessness, lol. God willing, it should be fine. And thank you for your service! 😁❤️

  • UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    They’ve got some pretty good drugs now. Just, like, have your hospital and your doctor picked out well in advance. Don’t skip your lamaze classes. It’s not fun, but you’ll make it through. And the best part is that your brain releases chemicals so you forget the worst bits.

    The best part about being a parent is the next twenty years.

    • Eq0@literature.cafe
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      2 months ago

      About your brain chemicals rewriting reality: I remember giving birth as totally chill time, nothing difficult, all smooth. While I also know for a fact I was crying that I couldn’t make it and my kid ended up overnight at the NICU. Somehow, your brain still tells you “all is great”

  • unknown1234_5@kbin.earth
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    2 months ago

    wish I could think of something funny to say. medicine is pretty good these days so I’m sure you’ll be fine.

    • mrs_Ana2006@lemmy.worldOP
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      2 months ago

      Fingers crossed!!! This is a wanted and planned child, so I’m obviously very happy; but God is childbirth still a scary thing to think about.

  • Remember_the_tooth@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    Seriously, though, congratulations and good luck. I hope we have stories of parenthood to look forward to after you catch up on sleep.

  • Hello_there@fedia.io
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    2 months ago

    If you get there too early they’ll try to send you home. If you get there too late you will be too late for epidural.
    You prob want to be there on the early side.

  • 7U5K3N@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    2 months ago

    Find a day care that’s reputable and get on the waiting list now.

    Now!!!

    Especially if you live in a metro area. Shits wild at how long you have to wait.

  • Samsy@lemmy.ml
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    2 months ago

    After I was present at the birth of my four wonderful children, my wife asked if I would give birth to them in another life…

    And I just said: never f*cking ever. If I were a woman, I wouldn’t want children.

    Huge respect to all women who seriously consider squeezing out a watermelon. As men, we can only be eternally grateful for this.

    @OP try the bathtub near the end. Best advice we can give.

  • twinnie@feddit.uk
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    2 months ago

    Giving birth is the easier part. At least you’re surrounded by doctors. When you get home and you don’t have a clue, that’s relentless.

  • SugarCatDestroyer@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    2 months ago

    The main thing is, don’t name the child a strange name, even Ethan. I have nothing against Ethans, I just can’t find a suitable example.