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Cake day: June 28th, 2023

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  • Every time I interact on reddit, I’m reminded about how superior my experience is every day on Lemmy. So I guess what I’m saying is “I don’t see it.” Oh, there are some assholes, alright - but they’re the exception, not the rule.

    Also, the relative lack of bots. Reddit is so overrun with bots that in any mainstream sub a genuine opinion cannot help but be drowned in a sea of corporate sponsored bullshit.







  • So lemmy.ca and piefed.ca have different feeds altogether when I view them, are they two separate things then? I’m not really clear on how communicating freely between them works. I understand that’s how the Fediverse supposedly works, but I have a Mastodon account and I haven’t sorted out any way to post on/read lemmy content with it, so I’m not sure what the integration actually means in practical application? Maybe someone could help me understand.




  • Heads up, y’all, don’t buy a D.R. Horton house if you can possibly avoid it, the more you know✨️

    Not for nothing, but every home “builder” in America subs out to (multiple) General Contractors who sub out to their contractors work that gets inspected by the local municipality in stages. When people warn against particular builders, I always feel obliged to temper this by saying “they’re all actually pretty equally shit.” Residential building is complicated field work done pretty much by randos with varying levels of addictions, it’s not like a factory building cars. There’s only so much that can be expected.

    Instead of avoiding particular builders, I would recommend buying a house that’s around 10 years old or so and which has been thoroughly inspected by someone who has been inspecting for more than 10 years (and who has been recommended to you by someone you know if possible). It will have had time to do any bad shit it’s gonna do (generally speaking). New houses are always a roll of the dice to some extent.


  • Same here man, it was many years ago. My ex was crazy - I don’t mean the kind of crazy like “everybody has a crazy ex crazy,” I mean literally crazy. I never knew whether I was coming home to someone weeping uncontrollably with her face buried in the couch - or bleary eyed with rage, screaming - pulling knives on me in the kitchen and threatening to kill me in my sleep. I am not exaggerating.

    Five years of this shit getting increasingly worse before I finally said “this ain’t living” and pulled the plug. She tried desperately to get me to change my mind, but I was done. Then she turned on me in earnest, lying to everyone I knew and telling them all sorts of crazy shit. They should have known better - these people grew up with me, they knew I was a good guy.

    But here’s the thing (and it still bugs me to this day) - when you’re the one doing the divorcing, you’re the one who gets blamed, right or wrong. There’s this sort of unspoken rule that the partner that wants to keep the marriage around must be the one that’s blameless. Nevermind if they’re abusive, manipulative, gaslighting pieces of shit who fuck around on you - they only want to make the marriage work!

    But there’s a silver lining. People always get the truth eventually. She won’t be able to hide her true nature forever, and eventually people will come around. When they do, they will come to you and they will apologize. In the meantime, get your counseling, know it isn’t you, be good to yourself, and find someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated.

    I am married to my second wife now for over 15 years. She is, was and always will be: NORMAL. Thank goodness. Sometimes you can wonder if it was maybe somehow partly your fault. A good woman will disabuse you of that notion.