Something that’s not super controversial, but you still really stand by it.
The future ain’t what be it used to be.
People who are the most uptight about manners and language are the rudest and most vile shit talkers.
A great realization that I had was that many of my language pet peeves were really preferences and not hard and fast rules. Language constantly evolves, regardless of how any one person feels. Clinging to my pet peeves was really just a form of elitism.
Grammar is descriptive, not prescriptive. <- The fancy way to say what you said. :-)
Wherever you go, there you are.
There’s no incentive for showing compassion online, apart from virtue signaling
This makes so little sense. Why would I care about signalling my ‘virtue’ to a bunch of anonymous people who have no idea who I am? I can say something nice or harsh because I believe it was affect the people who read it, even though I’ll never meet them. That is rational even if it doesn’t benefit me, if I care about the experiences of other people. But acting a certain way to gain positive regard for an anonymous identity is dumb af.
And the main reason I or anyone else acts compassionately online is probably just that it’s the first and easiest reaction. I don’t troll or harass people, even if I would suffer no consequences from it, simply because I have no interest in doing so. I say something nice because that’s what I want to say, it’s not an effort or a cost.
I think you missed the point completely. What I meant is people are busy sending thoughts and prayers to war & disaster victims but fail to show true compassion when someone online is going through a difficult time or otherwise misguided
I think most people get a dopamine response from being kind.
Ok well maybe there is a very very tiny incentive (compared to real world behaviour) but it really pales in comparison to all the general cold-heartedness
Sometimes people are just nice.
Indeed! Hope you had a chance to be nice today too
I did! You too 😊
There’s no incentive to virtue signal either, though.
For most users there’s no incentives of any kind, and they go to their default, which is alternatingly butthurt and mildly helpful. A minority are sadistic, virtue signaling or similar. And of course, everyone is horny.
Of course there is incentive for online virtue signaling - all the likes and shares and attention.
It seems to me positive attention comes out of compassion as well, unless it only counts when there’s no extrinsic motivation for it.
There is quite a lot of compassionate-seeming exchanges you can find on here, right?
Absolutely, and I’m happy to hear you see it that way too. Online platforms don’t really incentivize that though. That’s just my lukewarm take on that
That’s a very depressing take, and I think it says more about you than anything else.
What does it say about me? I don’t think online culture promotes compassion, although I think it’s the main value in human existence
Phrasing matters here. There are many similar words you could have used, and I would probably agree with many of them, but you went with:
There’s no incentive for showing compassion online, apart from virtue signaling.
If you believe there is NO other reason to be nice, other than virtue signaling, that means that EVERY time you see someone being nice online, you assume that they are only doing it to create the illusion of being a nice person.
This is where phrasing comes in.
If you said many or most people are only nice for this reason, we could debate the quantity, but for the most part I’d agree with that.
But you said there is no other incentive. I have no interest in virtue signaling, but I do like to be compassionate online. I can think of various reasons why I personally show compassion online. Since you can’t think of a single other reason, it must be because you’ve never experienced them. I must assume that any time that I see you showing compassion, it must be because you are virtue signaling, because that’s the only reason you’ve ever experienced, and you assume that everyone else is doing the same.
Perhaps you didn’t mean exactly what you wrote, but based on the words you used, that’s what you told us.
Phrasing matters here. There are many similar words you could have used
This implies you knew what their intent was but being a pedant was more important.
The irony of doing it in this thread with this comment from @HikingVet@lemmy.ca is too perfect.
Not at all. I was open to the possibility that they didn’t mean that, but I wrote my response under the assumption that it was their position.
That was essentially my way of saying, if this isn’t what you meant, let me know.
Seems a lot more expedient to say “if this isn’t what you meant, let me know”.
No need for multiple paragraphs of pedantry about language on an AskLemmy post inquiring about people’s opinions.
Still not my intent there, but maybe you just don’t get my tone. No worries.
Excuse my phrasing, but I stand by what I wrote. Tried to keep it brief.
Online platforms today do not offer any incentive for true positive behaviour, due to lack of community.
By the way your response and all the downvoting kinda proves my point. Compassion shows also in how you process what you read
I won’t say that’s wrong, but I look at it the other way around. I’m friendly on here because I want to create community. I know I recognize a lot of the same names every single day, and I’m sure they recognize mine as well. By being cordial to each other we create the community. No platform can create a community by itself, it’s up to the users to do that. Toxic people create a toxic community, nice people create a nice community.
So, my incentive for being friendly is to set the tone for my community. Even when I disagree with people, I try to make my points, and have a conversation instead of insulting people and yelling obscenities at them. Don’t get me wrong, if you come on here with some Nazi shit, I’d give you all the hell I can muster, because I don’t want those people to feel welcome here.
I have a feeling that your down votes are from other people who are friendly and just appreciate people being nice and don’t assume they are virtue signaling.
Water is really good, you should drink it every day.
My girlfriend prefers her water room temp, and as someone who loves ice cold water, it’s so weird to me. So I think I’m gonna start thinking of this as her lukewarm take.
Your girlfriend scares me quite a bit!!
I am also a woman of room temp water preference, I’m glad to know there is hope for me in finding a boyfriend
Room temp water guy here, but already happily married lol
There are dozens of us!
I didn’t know I had to put this on my tinder bio, you have changed my life
I’m a woman myself too, but I see that @Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world has chimed in as well! So it looks like there’s hope, haha
Honesty is the most important factor in any relationship.
Different strokes for different folks.
As a stroke survivor, I knew I was always getting the short end of the stick, but damn I really struck out
Follow the Rule of Law
The most important political issues are education and the environment, because those determine the future.
Lukewarm water is great for showering
I don’t want to hear about your dog or baby.
Dogs, fuck yeah. Babies, ugh.
Awe but they’re so cute!
What about baby dogs?
oh, go on then
Puppies are always nice
I don’t like puppies. Also unrelated Christmas. I’m a kid’s cartoon antagonist ready to happen.
I get that. The idea of Christmas is nice, and I like that it’s a day off for me, but it is just a lot of extra stress. I’m not even Christian but there’s still just so many societal expectations.
Either watch the movie OR read the book. Never both. Both just leads to disappointment at the cost of your time.
Any home that doesn’t have central air conditioning should at least have a dedicated circuit outlet by each window. It’s like home designers are trying to make people sweat.
People who are always the hero of their own stories are not trustworthy narrators.
We’re about due for another asteroid impact.
Fucking finally 🥺
