Assume that there’s no STIs involved. How comfortable would you be with a partner with numbers in the double digits? Triple digits?
When would be the appropriate time to share that kind of information?
So someone likes sex. So do I. We have that in common. Your body count is of no concern of mine. Honestly none of my business who or how many as long as we are together we stay faithful unless previously agreed upon.
It smells like reheated puritanism in here… Glad to know the more things change, the more they stay the same.
No, it would not matter to me. I wouldn’t ask, either. People deserve their privacy. But I’m aware of how outdated that concept may sound or be, nowadays. If I got to know, I’d like to know from the start. Because… yes.
The least I’d expect would be for the person to respect me and make sure everything was well and safe, before condoms could be considered to be overlooked. I always made sure to watch my health in regards to others.
I’m aware that for this hypothetical STDs are to be diaregarded but still…
But “body count”? What happened to “sex partners” or “lovers”? Got too clinical or too intimate? I’d like to understand the almost pathological need of lingo nowadays to create distance or sound military. In this case, both at the same time. Let’s dehumanize ourselves a bit more.
Going back to the original question again:
No, it does not matter how many people warmed their sheets or enjoyed their bits. Good for them, got lucky, but I get to keep the prize. Maybe share a bit, if we get a bit more on the wild side.
Let’s raise the stakes. What if the person is/was a sex worker? A prostitute or maybe a porn actor or actress? Does their line of work makes them less worthy of having emotional needs? Less human? Less of a person? Not really. In my understanding they are as deserving, if not even more, of having someone love, respect and support them.
I remember watching this documentary on sex workers years back and how this actress described her need, after a long they of work of being fucked, to go home, have a shower, have a nice meal with her partner and afterwards go to bed and make love in the missionary position. Telling, isn’t it?
And in the extreme scenario of that long line of people stemming from some trauma or perhaps a mental health condition, again, it should not matter at all.
I’m now available for your downvotes and vitriole.
Dated a sex worker - more a ‘call girl’ than a street contractor - after she was out. She got into it like the stereotype: sperm donor split when she got knocked up, and then she was a single mother outta high school with limited skills and massive bills.
Hey, one of us knew what we were doing back then. Yay!
She was absolutely stunning, too.
I know for a fact my wife has a higher count than I do, how much more? No clue, because I never asked and it doesn’t matter.
Everything she’s done up until I met her, made her the woman I love today.
Not a deal breaker at all :3
Honestly makes it more fun uwu
So “body count” in American English means murders in most contexts. Making this question rather confusing at first.
I can’t answer the first question because my wife and I both have counts of 1: each other. The second question…if I had an issue I would make that clear before a first date of it was indeed a deal breaker.
Kids these days are also using it to mean number of sexual partners, which I think is kinda cute.
Because a linguistic association between sex and murder is so adorable, especially when it comes from kids!
If you have a problem with the number of people your partner slept with prior to meeting you, you really shouldn’t be dating, as you need therapy to work through your issues before you start mucking about with other people.
If there are no STI’s involved, I fail to see how it’s anyone else’s business. Unless your partner decides to willingly divulge this info, of course.
I’m not sure I understand the question. What is STI and in what context should I understand ‘body count’?
Is it sexual partners? If that is so, I don’t give a f… I mean, I don’t care. It’s not some hunting competition, at least not for me or for my spouse.
The only thing I would care is us, my partner and I, being honest about anything happening that could jeopardize our relationship. Including any past or present adventures.
Sexually Transmitted Illness I believe.
If this is in any other context than sex, I’m concerned
Is driving a fast Subaru a dealbreaker?
Body count is stupid.
As long as someone is honest with you, cares about you, and gotten tested so they aren’t spreading anything… who honestly gives a shit?
I don’t ask for that information. As long as he has shown himself to be a good, loyal partner, his sexual past wouldn’t matter to me unless he did something unethical to achieve it.
It’s situational, but a very high number of past partners could correlate with unethical behavior in the past and/or some issues making healthy connections with others. It would be worthy of a discussion, but probably more broadly about past experiences and relationships rather than “body count.”
You could also say you don’t care how much money your partner has, but if they’re a billionaire you might want to know more about how they got there.
More XP. Higher level. Better rewards.
I have no qualms about the past of people I am sexually active with as long as they are clean and safe. Considering how many people I have been with, I would be a hypocrite if it mattered to me.
As far as when it is appropriate to share, I would say as soon as one is comfortable if at all. At the end of the day even a romantic partner does not have a right to every piece of information on you, and if a lot of sexual partners is a deal breaker to anyone involved the relationship shouldn’t continue in the first place. Incompatible values tend to ruin relationships.
None. No number. Why does it matter? Like, at all?
For me, I don’t care to know the details of their past relationships. It’s none of my business. If anything, sharing body counts is just another way to shame a partner for something that should not be held against anyone. So what if she sucked 37 dicks? Doesn’t matter if it was in a row or not.
I know for a fact that I am completely comfortable with low double digits and the numbers really aren’t that important. I’m not a high scorer by any means, but never really thought about the numbers. Can’t remember ever asking for a count.
