I was talking to a female friend and young Arnold Schwarzenegger came up on conversation. I pulled up a picture of him and spent a long time looking at it. Then said "I am trying to decide if he is attractive.

I know for me women who are fit and toned, attractive. Once a woman is muscular, attractive falls off a cliff. Probably because they start looking like a man.

The Arnold picture

  • Mastengwe@lemm.ee
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    You think being muscular makes a woman look like a man? Sooo… muscles are for men only. And women should hide theirs?

    Weird take.

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      I’m not agreeing with him at all but that’s a strange jump to take.

      I’d say that secondary sexual characteristics in women tend to involve body fat. Being in extremely good shape does affect that a little bit - breasts, hips, face, ass, - and some would see that as looking more masculine where I’d say they’re just extremely fit.

      Somehow roundness and softness is ‘feminine.’

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      I understand what OP means. He (?) is saying that when a woman starts to have bulging muscles, a la the bodybuilder look, it isn’t attractive, because their body looks more masculine and less feminine.

      I feel the same way, I love the look of a toned, athletic woman, like the typical yoga or volleyball/tennis body, but when they start having visible definition and bulging muscles it don’t find it attractive.

      I’m a dude as well, as to OP’s question, I’ve also heard that some women prefer the dad bod to the Arnold look because muscles aren’t soft to lay on.

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        It’s one thing to not be attracted to muscular women, but to say that it’s because muscular builds are “manly” is sexist as fuck.

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      The most muscular women on earth had to take steroids to get there. The most muscular people on earth who don’t take steroids are men (not saying no men take them; don’t put words in people’s mouths). So, I could see that line of thinking, but it’s a needlessly prescriptive way of phrasing it.

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        I’d love to see how you can’t make this relevant to the idea that women shouldn’t have large muscles.

        Please go on…

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      First of WTF?

      Second believe it or not it’s actually okay to not find certain physical or mental attributes attractive. Attractiveness of others differs for everyone. It isn’t okay to then be mean or disrespectful to those you are not attracted to.

      Weirdly enough if you read my post I didn’t say muscular women were bad, I never said they should not be muscular and I definitely did not say women should hide their muscles.

      So please just fuck off, thank you

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        If you read my comments, you’d see that I said everyone is free to be attracted to whatever and whoever they wish, but saying that women look like men when they have muscles is incredibly sexist.

        Maybe phrase things differently if you want to be understood better.

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          Looking back on your comment history you seem to have a lot of down vote. I take it you like to say mean things. I am sorry you feel that way. It must be miserable.

          Here is every comment you made on your post feel free to show me where you said “…everyone is free to be attracted to whatever and whoever they wish,…”

          You think being muscular makes a woman look like a man? Sooo… muscles are for men only. And women should hide theirs?

          Weird take.

          It’s one thing to not be attracted to muscular women, but to say that it’s because muscular builds are “manly” is sexist as fuck.

          I’d love to see how you can’t make this relevant to the idea that women shouldn’t have large muscles.

          Please go on…

          Sometimes gifts just wrap themselves.

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            If you need to mine someone’s comment history to make your point, you have no point. Stay in the wheelhouse, or don’t bother at all.

            And my comment history is far more upvotes than down, but clearly you’re the type of person to not take nuance into consideration.

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          “I don’t like oranges in desserts”

          That’s perfectly valid and nothing wrong with that ✨✨✨

          “It’s weird when oranges are used in sweet things because they nory are sour”

          OMG what so oranges can’t be sweet now they should hide their sweetness? 😡 That’s incredibly tasteless wow. You should N E V E R explain why your preference means away from something you [descriptor]ist!

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            “I don’t like oranges in deserts”

            That’s perfectly valid and nothing wrong with that.

            “I think oranges in deserts isn’t feminine”

            Sexist bullshit.

            FTFY.