I’m 20 and probably wouldn’t date anyone over 39 or under 18-19. If i date someone who is 18, they also can’t be barely 18, they have to have been 18 for a while so birthday is important if they’re 18.

my current girlfriend is 19 x3

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    +/- 5 years (I am in my 30s).

    And honestly (I will probably be killed for this) I have no problems with others having big age differences as long as the younger person is at least 21. It’s not like you are significantly more susceptible than later in your life and don’t know what you’re doing.

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    Whatever-whatever. I don’t have any strict age limit, if you care to make your case I’ll listen. I’m not that busy.

    That being said I do have the most in common with women in their 30s, being in my 30s myself

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    [Error] to [Error]

    (Don’t want a relationship. I’ve seen first hand how my parents are miserable with each other, not looking forward to that shit)

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    In theory maybe 10 years in either direction (I’m old) but in practice I’ve only had long term relationships with guys within a couple years of my age.

    Lovers between times, for whatever reason I always ended up with younger guys, that seemed to be the people into me, but still never more than 10 years difference.

    When I was your age? One or two years at most. Absolutely not anyone much older or younger, no.

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    Hypothetically, I don’t have a limit st the high end, and the low end would be based more on the individual, but no younger than eighteen.

    In reality, chances of finding someone in their twenties that would mesh well with for dating is unlikely, so thirty-ish is a more realistic lower age.

    Upper end is less restricted for dating, but on a realistic level, I’m not going to enter a relationship with someone that’s into their seventies just because of life span probability after that.

    Luckily, I’m happily married, so I don’t have to worry about that shit. But I’ve never cared about ages for dating, since dating is essentially “trying on” someone for a more committed relationship. It makes it worth interacting with people that are less likely to be compatible on a surface level, when going into it with the knowledge that it’s probably going to peter out anyway, so the risks of it having a high price are lower.

    Seriously, every relationship has difficulties. You can’t predict what’s going to arise over decades of being together. So limiting options by age ends up being arbitrary. While I never went looking for people far away from my age, anyone old enough and developed enough to understand what a relationship is was the determinant.

    Now, on a practical level, once you’re out in the work force, chances are that you’ll be interacting with people from their mid-to-late twenties up to their sixties. So you aren’t going to end up dating outside of that range often. To date someone you have to meet them, and communicate often enough to ask them for time outside of whatever scope you meet them in. So I never really dated outside that range at any point. But I wouldn’t have rejected the possibility if it came up.

    I dunno, I just don’t see age gaps as a problem.

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      @HiTekRedNek@lemmy.world body has been discovered behind a Wendy’s near a dumpster with a card board sign

      single like a dollar bill, have it for free!

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    I’m 43 and if someone over 35 wants to date you it’s a pedophile

    I feel like ±5 is appropriate until 35. After 35 you can’t get lower but you can get as higher as you want

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      if someone over 35 wants to date you it’s a pedophile

      No…words have definitions for a reason. Pedophiles go after prepubescent children, not 20 year olds who are most certainly postpubes ent. It may not be ‘normal’ or viewed highly by people, but it’s not pedophilia.

      Also it’s super weird to think 35 and 105 is cool to you, but 35 and 34 if no go territory.

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        a 20 yo is almost a teen, a 35 yo is someone that have lived and it’s not so easy to influence. A 35 with a 105 is weird but we all know both are aware of whats happening, if a 40 is after a 20 it’s because he likes them young and I don’t doubt it would go even lower.

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          Agree. Someone well into adulthood with a preference for dating people right at the border of adolescence is a massive red flag. It may be legal but flying as close to that line as society will allow suggests a more predatory nature.

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        This pedo muddying water shit is getting tiring.

        Just because you don’t like something, it doesn’t make it a crime and it surely as fuck does it make it a pedo issue.

        We already got enough pedo yearning for the wood chipper., j dont get why people waste their energy on Leonardo DiCaprio lol

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    The largest age gap I’ve been involved with was about 4 years. I was 31, she was 35, and we lasted about three months. Current partner and I are about 1.5 years apart.

    If I were single and interested in dating, I think the lowest age I’d be willing to go is half my age plus 7. Someone at the absolute lowest end of that range would need to check a lot of other boxes for me to be willing. Most I’d be willing to go over my age is about 10 years.

    But frankly, if I were single, I’d probably just stop the online dating thing and live my best life on my own, and if I met someone who was interested cool, and if not it ain’t the end of the world.

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    That is a strange way to say she’s 57…

    But anyway! Range varies wildly with age. 6 years is something you at least ponder at age 25, but will feel like “same age” around 50.

    My feeling based on what people seem to at least not care to even gossip lightly about: max 1 year at age 15. 5 years at 40. 10 years at age 60+.

    Wider ranges are not problematic, but gets into at least “interesting to talk about”. E.g. “They are 33 and 40! Huh! Good for them.”

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    It depends entirely on the person. Some people are intelligent, self possessed adults by the time they’re 20, other people are immature shitbags well into their old age. Age is a poor metric for evaluating compatibility.