What is something one can do intentionally to ‘unmask’ themselves and become who they really are?

  • Tm12@lemmy.caEnglish
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    2 months ago

    Think about why you mask, when you mask, and how you can give yourself reprieve from it. Masking is exhausting in a neurodivergent sense. Allow yourself some grace.

  • tetris11@lemmy.ml
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    2 months ago

    I’ve seen who I am when I’m high and drunk, and though I like aspects of that guy, I don’t like him that much. There’s just something a bit creepy about him.

    I’ve also seen who I am when I’m sober, and I dont like that guy either. He’s a miserable unappreciative loveless git.

    The guy I like is two and half coffees deep. He’s happy, focused, witty, interesting, and motivated. I wish I could be this guy all the time, but he comes out only for 2 hours a day.

  • NaibofTabr@infosec.pubEnglish
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    2 months ago

    This concept is inherently flawed. There is no static form of ‘true’ self.

    Who you are now is different from who you were five years ago, and who you are tomorrow will be different from who you are now. Who you are changes depending on who is in the room with you, because your relationship with that person changes the context of your actions and interactions.

    This is not to say that personality or identity is fungible, but that it is not fixed and there is no end state (no goal).

    We do tend to reflect and repeat behaviors that we observe, and I think there’s some truth in the idea that you become the average of the people you spend the most time with. With this in mind, think about who you feel most comfortable with in your life - the people who, when you spend time with them, you feel most at peace with yourself - then try to arrange your life to spend more time with those people.

    In regard to “masking”, I’ll just point out that privacy implies that some things are not shared with others. Therefore, to have any privacy in your life some things must be hidden, including some thoughts, feelings and opinions. Having a private life is healthy and normal and doesn’t mean that you are suppressing your “true self”.

  • tisktisk@piefed.socialEnglish
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    2 months ago

    What if there was nothing behind the mask? What if there is more of you in the mask itself than the substance it conceals?

  • Pudutr0ñ@feddit.cl
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    2 months ago

    You realize you already are who you truly are. Then you decide what you want to truly be and work towards becoming that person.