Is there a way to figure out if they blocked youon Signal if you can still technically message them?
It doesnt matter if they blocked you or not. If theyre not talking to you theyre not talking to you.
Ur so right :( O well
I once ghosted a friend of some fifteen years after a friend of nearly twenty years told me he had raped her a few years prior.
I’m not sure I believe it (there was alcohol involved and he’s a super kind person, so my suspicion is that she regretted it and saw it as rape because they were both drunk), but I believe she believes it and she is my number one.
Not saying you raped anybody. Just giving an example of a reason.
i just don’t understand. We left off positively.
I noticed for the sending receipts they used to show two checkmarks but now just one :(
This behavior kind of feels borderline neurotic. I’d just give them some space, and try not to hyperfixate.
Honestly, dude, im leaving it be. Nothing actively done. This is my best friend I thougt I had, please try tk stop being a dick, how can you not get why I woulnd’t be super distressed and invested in this
I literally have no choice in any case so please stop. I’m not asking for people to enable me, im just asking for understanding and…i dont effing no…good night everyone, i just dontknow anymore
Sorry.
Fwiw, as long as you’re not spamming them or anything I don’t think there’s anything neurotic here. There’s nothing wrong with being emotionally invested in a friendship, or being stressed out about signs it might have ended or changed.
At the same time, because I know nothing about you or your friend, I feel compelled to reference one of my favorite pieces of advice from a classic rock song: “hold on loosely, but don’t let go. If you cling too tightly, you might lose control.” Meaning holding on too tightly to someone might be off-putting whether them distancing themself was intentional or not. Your best bet might just be to demonstrate your independence as a person and wait to see what happens.
Oh I absolutey am cutting him loose as he’s done to me until he answers for it, we’re going on 3 months soon so that is unacceptable to not recognizing someone and preventing them from contacting them. At some point, there is only one explanation and at the end of the day, I feel my time is more valuable than ceding freely to someone who objectively makes it impossible to touch base with em and letting me waste more time finding out what the deal is.
Even then, if he wants to be balding baby about it, he’s probably out anyway. I’ve grown tired of (t)his bullshit
One tick means sent, two means delivered.
There are a lot of reasons you might be seeing only one tick, but it does mean they’re not getting your messages.
I’ve wondered the same thing about my friend too, but we just saw each other a few days ago for the first time in nearly ten years and everything was fine, just like it always was, even though I missed him terribly in the meantime.
It’s hard staying in touch. If you have an email address for them, just reach out occasionally to let them know you’re thinking of them. They’ll be back in touch when they can. And if not, well, like you said it’s not worth getting upset over anyway, and there’s no shortage of things that are worth getting upset over to hold your attention!
Did he delete the app or block me tho?
Does blocking cause the one tix?
Yes, a single tick will be displayed if you are blocked.
Honestly, just leave it for now. If they don’t see your messages in a couple of days, ask a mutual friend or something. But for now, I don’t think it would be good to attempt further contact, or worry about it too much.
Also only if it was sent but they havent opened app yet. A family member i know would never block me hasnt opened one yet :)
I use signal a lot and sometimes people’s phones will stop signal from running in the background. This can cause the behaviour you’re seeing, as their phone wont receive the messages until they open the app manually
Its been objectively a long time tho
How long? A week? More?
Try to give them the benefit of the doubt and give them space. Tell yourself things like they may have had a death in the family, or their phone got stolen/broken. Try your best to focus on other things and take on something new and interesting. Use exercise to adjust your brain chemistry if your feelings are overpowering your logic to give them space.
If nothing serious has happened, you learned a valuable lesson about them, and know to maintain more distance.
Stay classy!
Do you think its over tho ;(
It could be. Unfortunately, all things come to an end. But as they say, “don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”.
After a broken neck and back, and everything I’ve gone through in life, the most valuable lesson I can share is deceptively simple in thought but equally powerful in practice; only worry about the things you can change right now in this moment. Everything else is a waste of time and energy. Anxiety will get you nowhere. Relationships are brain chemistry too. They are addictions. They must be actively managed for your best health. If you are having trouble, go for a walk somewhere safe. The exercise will help get it off your mind.
This is great advice.
They’ve suddenly landed in a really controlling environment (be it a partner, parents, or a government), and wish to hide your relationship/keep you out of the crosshairs.
Do you think thats honestly plausible? I know we left off genuinely ok and just nothing
Maybe they lost their phone
I hope you’re right. My inverse thinking proclivity has got me assuming the worst always
If suddenly they ghost you then they aren’t a real good friend, good friends make clear if there is any problem and generally it get solved.
Just as a tip: real good friends are counted with the fingers of one hand, they are very rare and unconditional in life.
It’s possible that your friend is experiencing depression.
No real advice to give her, but I thought I’d share this story.
About 6 or 7 years ago, one of my friends unfriended basically everyone we know on Facebook and stopped replying to text messages out of the blue. Some of us had been hanging out with him a few days before, and there was no sign that anything was off.
To this day we don’t really know exactly what happened, but we have a pretty solid theory.
My friend was born in the Middle East, but moved here when he was pretty young. His father is from that country, his mother is a white American, and from what I understand is not Muslim. His father apparently got a lot of shit from his family for that.
His father was always very strict, he’d gotten into fights with him before, there was one occasion where his father had threatened to move the family back to his home country, my friend stood up to him about that because his younger siblings had really only ever lived here, and ended up getting thrown out of the house for a while. His father used threats like that and cutting him off from his siblings to keep him in line. There had been some other similar fights because his father didn’t approve of girls he was dating and such.
Few if any of us had ever met his father, but I get the impression he probably wasn’t a fan of us either.
A couple of us went to his home to make sure he was ok, he answered the door, we didn’t really get any answers except that he had made the decision with some other people that he couldn’t associate with us anymore.
We later found out that he had been dating a girl, probably not one his dad would have approved of, and had also ghosted her at the same time.
Pretty much everyone left on his Facebook at the time were people with Middle Eastern names.
So we’re pretty sure what happened is that his father came down on him with some big ultimatum to cut ties with anyone he didn’t approve of or else.
A couple of us saw him in the wild once, he wouldn’t acknowledge any of them. I shoot him a text once in a while, I have no idea if he’s seen any of them, but I’ve never gotten a direct reply. A couple years ago, another friend’s father passed away, we all used to hang out at his home, so I reached out to someone I knew from high school who wasn’t defriended, and asked if they could let him know, and they did, the only reply I got through that mutual friend was a quick thanks.
Sometimes there’s some really heavy stuff going on under the surface, and you can’t always count on getting a solid answer.
My best friend of 10 years vanished as he was fighting depression and most probably still is.
A message that someone is in your thoughts with no ask can be a great thing to toss to a friend in this situation. Just make sure you aren’t pushing for any kind of response.
For me it was a sharp decline in mental health.
Perhaps they ran out of social energy and decided they need time alone. It happens. I would reach out once or twice just to check and then give it a rest for a long while, to not stress them out. If it’s depression, it can last a very, very long time.
Have you tried getting a second friend to see if they can contact them?
Ya, I just gotta let it be for a while. If they were mine they’ll come back to me, if they dont, they were never mine to begin with 😭
We always come back to each other though.
Thats chicks but we’re male. Not sure if that changes the calculus
I’m female tho
So when I said thats chicks, that implied my understanding that the two of you were women.
I’m saying I believe as males its different
Oh. Sorry, read that wrong.
Not really any different for men.
I think guys can have more pride + shame involved. Thats absolutley a defect of our gender. I dont want to get into sexist stereotypes but its often different as males
Not getting an answer is an answer. I wouldn’t insist on contacting them.
As othera have suggested, it could be depression, a decline in mental health, or maybe feelings of betrayal
