So, I’m gay and this is my first relationship. Just recently started having sex. I’ve never had any interest in the penetrating side of things. I’m on the “passive” side. I have no idea what the average is, but my bf can only go for up to 10 mins tops. It seems short to me. Maybe it’s cause I have no previous experience and all I know is from online stuff. Sorry if it’s a dumb question. I don’t know if I should mark this as NSFW or not.
I meant start of penetration. Maybe I have skewed expectations cause all the media I’ve been consuming before getting into a relationship was like the guy goes for 2h nonstop (books), porn is like 30 mins+ with multiple positions switch, etc.
…aaaaand copious amounts of viagra, and picturing Margaret Thatcher in the nude the entire time? Probably.
My IRL experience is generally ~20-40min nonstop with one or two position changes, but that’s after years of experience together. You’re not gonna find that with anyone right away, you have to get to know both your own body and theirs, what the limits are, what the triggers are. Good sex takes work to achieve, from all parties. You’ll get there.
Never rate yourself or anyone else against a porn actor, they are that, actors, they train to do a job. At least in a semi regulated industry where you have alot of non-actor people like directors, multiple camera people, sound engineers, carry heavy shit people.
Actors need to last as long as the script demands and cum on queue, then be hard for another take. it’s alot more complicated than then 20-30 min clip makes it appear. And real life is alot more messy than porn with participants often not being in their peak performance mode. You don’t see what happens between the scenes, I doubt that scenes are shot in one go either. Plus those people get paid.
Tldr, real life is not porn.