LGBTQ+ rights in the work force. I think I’m one of the few individuals who don’t prioritize their LGBTQ orientation as my identity into my jobs. I know that people getting fired over their identity is an issue, but it’s something that doesn’t affect me because I don’t parade my identity. I don’t feel it is my job’s business to know it either, I go to work, do the work, they pay me to do the work and that’s the bottom line of our relationship, period.
We don’t need to complicate things because I’m X identity and they need to get into Y politics over it.
They didn’t say “don’t say gay”. They said “Being gay shouldn’t be your identity and should make no impact for better or worse in the workplace”
I don’t have a choice. Being trans is part of my identity, whether I like it or not. It’s not a diagnosis, it’s a label describing who I am. The idea of having to “boy-mode” the rest of my life because I have to bend to the will of some dumbass, PoS Karen who’s own family doesn’t love her, just because she might get offended by who I am is extremely painful. There’s a reason why suicide rates are extremely high among trans people. I cannot change who I am. I cannot cover it up forever. There will become a point at which, no matter how hard I try, it will become obvious that I’m trans.
Don’t say gay, don’t act gay, don’t be gay. That’s what “don’t say gay” is, and that’s exactly what OP is advocating for. And no, it shouldn’t matter if you’re straight or gay, but it does matter because there are more hateful idiots out there than there are loving people.
Ok. Trans for me is a different subject. You are absolutely right. You have a harder time blending in than non-trans. However, I still believe that OP is not meaning “don’t say gay”. They’re saying it’s no one’s business. Which does apply to you. However that’s an uphill battle for you unfortunately. Still don’t believe there’s anything wrong with you telling someone in the workplace to mind their own business
It is no one’s business yet people make it their business. If OP gets fired because they get seen giving their partner a kiss or a neighbour outs them then, suddenly their identity is an issue at work. Just because OP has not been outed involuntarily yet, doesn’t mean it won’t affect them in the future. And if OP, for fear of getting fired, is keeping their identity a secret, it is actively affecting them. If a gay dude says to their co-worker “my partner made that cake” instead of “my boyfriend made that cake” because mentioning a boyfriend is a risk to their work it is affecting them.
I don’t believe OP is afraid of getting fired over their orientation. To me, it just seems like they prefer to keep their personal life and work life separate without sacrificing any morals