• pdavis@lemmy.world
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    21 days ago

    While tattoos have become more acceptable over the years, I can’t not secretly judge people that have hand or above the neck line tattoos. Of course the placement, style, and number all play a part in my judgement :) Tattoos on any other body parts don’t trigger me though.

  • jwiggler@sh.itjust.works
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    29 days ago

    I find it rude when people on the bus put their bag on the empty seat next to them, so that you have to ask them to move it when there are no empty rows left. It’s strangely hostile to me.

    I think its just polite to leave your bag off the seat until the bus is boarded.

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      29 days ago

      They don’t want you sitting there. They’re hoping you don’t ask them. Your interpretation that it’s hostile is correct, since it’s antisocial behavior.

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      29 days ago

      The correct response to this is to ask them to move their bag and sit next to them, whilst there are other empty seats next to other people nearby.

      Punish their greed.

  • DirigibleProtein@aussie.zone
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    29 days ago

    Being completely unaware of anyone else:

    • Standing in doorways, using your phone or having a conversation
    • Talking loudly when inappropriate, when I’m in pain at the doctors, I don’t want to hear about your roses
    • leaving your shopping trolley blocking the aisle sideways in the supermarket while looking for your stuff
    • driving down the middle of the road so everyone else has to pull over, when there’s plenty of room for two cars to pass
    • stopping in the middle of the road without indicating, while: looking for your destination, or having a conversation, or deciding what day it is
    • riding your delivery bike down the footpath at high speed weaving between pedestrians

    As Jean-Paul Sartre said, “Hell is other people”.

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      29 days ago
      • riding your delivery bike down the footpath at high speed weaving between pedestrians

      Gotta include the ones riding at night in black/dark clothes with no reflectors or lights; be it using the crosswalk, against a ‘do not cross’ or in the middle of the [car] lane, ignoring the bike lane.

    • Dharma Curious@startrek.website
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      29 days ago

      I can’t find a source right now, because I just woke up and I don’t want to, so (Trust Me Bro, et al, 2024) but there’s a chance that quote is actually about Nazis!

      A lot of French people referred to them as “the others” and would often speak sort of semi-codedly about them in writing and such so as not to piss off their new overlords. So that line may well not have been “I’m such an introvert that being around other humans is like being in hell” but instead “hell has delivered itself to my doorstep in the form of goose-stepping bastards”

      • GarbageShootAlt2@lemmy.ml
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        That’s not at all what the quote is and neither is the top level commenter’s interpretation, and I think it not being these is pretty obvious if you read No Exit. The point that he was making (and this is putting it crassly because I know jack shit about his Heidegger-based phenomenology) is the presence of other people forces us to be self-conscious, to regard ourselves as the object of someone else’s perception and judgement. That’s why Sartre goes out of his way to say the room (their jail cell in Hell, effectively) had no reflective surfaces, so that the character’s perception of themselves could only come from the people they are stuck with (this doesn’t entirely make sense, but I am pretty sure it’s what he meant). You can read him talk about some of the premises informing this by checking out his writing on “The Look,” like is quoted below this comic.

        So it’s a slightly obtuse point about intersubjectivity that people have turned into a cutesy way of talking about their own misanthropy. It’s probably more emblematic of the meaning of the quote how people in this thread, original commenter especially, are talking about silently judging people for this and that action.

    • N0body@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      29 days ago

      stopping in the middle of the road without indicating, while: looking for your destination, or having a conversation, or deciding what day it is

      That’s my new pet peeve. The thing is I don’t remember seeing people do this in the past and certainly not frequently, but now I see it all the time. Mind-boggling selfishness. I think Covid rotted everyone’s brains way more than we realize.

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        Someone stopped in front of me… on an offramp. Luckily there was nobody behind me to hit me, but that’s an insane place to stop. No hazard lights, no indication. Just stopped.

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          I once got caught behind someone who came to an abrupt stop in a roundabout so they could go to the next episode / video on their iPad that they had attached to their dashboard.

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            I once had someone do an emergency stop in front of me for no apparent reason in the fast lane of a not very busy motorway. I barely managed to stop in time from high speed.

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    29 days ago

    People being shitty to customer service workers and utility, and people not being courteous to them.

    Heck, I sometimes judge people for not thanking service workers and utility. For example: if a janitor lets you pass a hallway they’ve been busy cleaning, I’d silently judge you if you don’t thank the janitor for letting you pass. Another example is in a fast food setting: if the person on the counter gives you your order, I’d silently judge you if you don’t say “thank you”.

    • Dharma Curious@startrek.website
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      29 days ago

      If someone is cleaning a floor and I have to walk over it, they’re getting several sorrys and at least 2 thank yous, while I do that shrink my body to the side and putting my palms out towards them like a peasant not trying to be whipped by a landed gentry.

      I’ve mopped professionally. It sucks.

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        29 days ago

        Agreed!

        If I were in that situation, I’d profusely apologize for having to pass through, and would give as much thanks as I did apologies after I’m through. I’d also make sure my footwear touch the floor as little as possible (likely by walking on my toes or the sides of my feet), and try to stick as close to the wall as possible. All just so that they can just redo a limited area after I’ve passed through.

        I’ve never done that for a living, but I dread having to clean my room, sweep the floors, mopping it and such. I really feel for those people who had to mop the floors in high-traffic areas.

    • JackbyDev@programming.dev
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      28 days ago

      Oh my God my fucking in laws… Literally any amount of poor service or delay and they’re taking a passive aggressive tone with service workers. It’s absolutely insane. Like, no, I do not think this person has personally slighted you, it’s just rush hour and everybody else is also ordering food right now.

  • Postmortal_Pop@lemmy.world
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    29 days ago

    The roads in my city are as far from flat as you can get. The potholes aren’t bad but the roads are build to slope into the gutters and the gutters occasionally cut through the streets like reverse speed bumps, the train tracks are like crossing wagon ruts.

    So if I see you rolling around in some luxury sports car with a 3in clearance, I’m going to assume you’re too fucking stupid to deserve that much money.

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      My pet peeve about these gutters is 4 way intersections where the city planner put stop signs for the direction that doesn’t have to cross the gutters, and makes the gutter-crossing direction the primary right of way. We have to essentially come to a slow roll to not bottom out, just give us the stop signs as a heads up that we’re approaching a hazard that eats undercarriages.

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        I’m convinced that exact move is on purpose! No reasonable person can look at that intersection and think, “this can’t possibly be done better in any way.”

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      Oh yeah, I’ll quickly shut that down when they wanna do that “kids these days with the technology” nonsense, usually as some excuse for why these older folks who’ve had 40+ years to figure out computers still can’t check their own email.

      No, Timmy isn’t “so smart with technology” because he can consoom on a device designed for infinite low-friction consumption.

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    Casual fossil fuel use. Not work related shit, but asking me to drive an hour to you to chat because you won’t learn discord is demoralizing. I know that it’s not a big source of CO2, but it adds up and the same people who do it also throw food out, don’t fix anything and don’t demand more action from their politicians. They RP as revolutionaries, but don’t do anything.

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    I loudly judge people for things that I think are morally wrong, but I would feel quite bad if I voiced some of my other opinions. Yesterday one of my friends complained about someone coming through the McDonalds drive through and ordering too many chicken nuggets. They said that person had “no respect for how they made the employees feel”. It’s like… come on man. They just wanted some nuggies. Surely you can muster the immense strength of will required to cook a few extra?

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    29 days ago

    Secretly, I’ll pass judgement on someone until I realize I know nothing about them and would be unhappy if someone judged me without knowing anything about me. Then I judge myself for being judgmental.

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    Spelling errors on professional documents, especially signs/posters/ads. You don’t have to know everything, but you have to check before putting it up.

    When I see restaurant specials boards riddled with mistakes it makes me want to not eat there.

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    Here’s something positive: precisely mentioning what they tried on a problem already!

    If someone’s stuck on a problem and defines what help they need, then I have no thoughts either way. It’s just a problem, and something to be helped through. Neutral.

    But if they describe what they did already, then I think “Wow, this person really put in some I-don’t-give-up effort! Nice work, bro!”

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    28 days ago

    Lately I’ve been seeing a lot of people just throwing trash out their car windows. It’s become disturbingly common and I really want to scream at the that the world is not their trashcan. I don’t, because I really think I would get shot.