every time we go out to eat, I take like two bites and feel like throwing up, and I’m not one to get nauseous easily. this only started when we started dating (wed been best friends for 3 years or so up until that)

its not new food, I’ve been to these places many times before

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    Anxiety?

    If that tiny idiot of an amygdala in your brain thinks you’re in danger then nausea can be a symptom.

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    Allergies maybe? Most women use special makeup for dates. It could be something she’s wearing like lipstick. It could be something in the food like peanuts or olive oil.

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    Sounds like anxiety. Mild nausea and loss of appetite are something that I deal with on a daily basis. If you are happy then it could just be nervous excitement, like having butterflies in your stomach.

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      Yeah, OP didn’t say how long they’d been together but if it’s a new relationship after 3 years of being friends, especially if they’re young and/or there’s been lingering feelings for some time before becoming “official”, then anxiety and nervous excitement is likely to be high!

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          If nothing else is triggering it then my advice would be to cherish the feeling while it lasts! Go on dates that don’t involve food for a while or stick to lighter food that doesn’t involve sitting in a restaurant to eat. Once things start to feel more normal between you then you can try formal meals again.

          If she’s suggesting restaurants in the meantime then just be honest with her, she’ll likely find it sweet and endearing and it’ll help to calm the nerves.

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            maybe you’re right

            thing is well usually spend a good couple hours together and need food at that point

            but well see, might be best to try and avoid food for a bit

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              Cooking together can be a fun “date”. Do it at your place so you won’t feel so much anxiety. Or if you need food that badly after a couple hours make some popcorn and eat it while you watch a show or movie.

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    Placebo effect?
    Maybe you got a touch of food poisoning one of the first times and now you subconsciously associate it with date nights?

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      Fun fact! When the effect on your health is negative instead of positive it’s known as the nocebo effect.

      Well, I thought that fact was fun…

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    Maybe she’s poisoning you just a tiny bit at a time. Kidding, but have you guys eaten a meal at home together without you feeling sick?

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      not really, she came over once and we ate like polish crepes i made, and that was fine, but not much of a meal, no

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      no she definetly did, same one as always, and its not strong

      also that would make me nauseous in the car as well, not just when eating

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    I have a similar issue sometimes. I feel like I get overstimulated by smells in restaurants… Also I’m lazy so I eat boring food at home, so maybe the variety contributes to the nausea.

    Also I’m celiac, which definitely doesn’t help.

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    Restaurants don’t serve food. They serve drugs that are intended to hook you and make you come back, not nourish you and keep you healthy. It could just be the cumulative effect. People who eat poorly get worse and worse over time.

    I think every large establishment that serves food to the public should be required to serve food that a person could eat FOR EVERY MEAL and be healthy.

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      Yup restaurant food is drugs and it’s turning the fricken frogs GAY

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      I’ve worked in quite a few restaurants, and although they were full of drugs, the drugs were usually in the cooks, NOT the food.

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      Sir, you do not have a worthy username to be saying crazy things on the internet. That’s MY thing! And if anything, you gotta have drugs! Do you know what this world would come to if Danny DeVito ever ran out of cocaine??? He would get all oiled up, and we’d all have to look at his butthole, as Chyrol Crow sang dongs about irony. Because WE were the buttholes all along!

      See? THAT’S how it’s done! Now go see my post about why Burger King should start advertising nuts on pornhub.

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    It’s because you’re pregnant.

    But on all seriousness, some say that there are cases when the would-be-father also feels nauseous with food when the girl gets pregnant.