i can’t stand megathreads – no one reads these! no one wants their posts banished there!
I absolutely hate the love for revenge violence. Stuff like celebration people running over protestors in their cars because they were forced to stop on the road. Or bleeding out after someone got shot when they robbed a store.
This includes that fact that you can basically guarantee every thread contains at least one comment claiming “play stupid games, win stupid prizes”
While that would be ideal and it makes me feel a bit gross when I catch myself thinking the same things sometimes, it’s inevitable. Retribution is one of the easiest ways to exact a punishment, violent or not.
I haaate “equal rights means equal lefts.”
These dudes fantasize about a woman picking a fight with them so they can beat the shit out of one and have it be socially acceptable.
I saw one of those just before I left Reddit. A woman slapped a guy with her flat hand (they didn’t show you why) and he knocked her unconscious. And Reddit was celebrating the guy 🤮.
Riiight? Like, women shouldn’t be hitting people for sure and there should be consequential. But men celebrating that women getting knocked out gives me the creeps. Honestly, if it was anyone substantially larger knocking out someone so much weaker of any gender or age it would be wrong. Imaging a body builder knocking out an old man or a small boy? Very wrong. I think everyine could agree there. But reddit just loves to celebrate this specific brand if violence on women.
Imaging a body builder knocking out an old man or a small boy?People’s outrage would never reach criticality in those cases as men are currently viewed as expendable and a socially acceptable target of hate in general society at large
You’re in a bananas level victim mindset if you genuinely think this. My whole state freaked out because the police shoved an old man over on camera once.
Creative writing presented as truth
Oh man, this is something I definitely hope to never see again. I’m so tired of the unbelievable TIFUs, AITAs, and/or OffMyChests with thousands of upvotes that had obviously-fake stories.
The worst one (in recent history) was that TIFU with the student who slept with their professor’s daughter.
Part 1: https://libreddit.de/r/tifu/comments/1379pge/tifu_by_hooking_up_with_professors_daughter/
Part 2: https://libreddit.de/r/tifu/comments/137u9bk/tifupdate_by_hooking_up_with_professors_daughter/
Part 3: https://libreddit.de/r/tifu/comments/1391lmj/tifupdate_i_cuckolded_my_professor/
I hope this kind of bullshit never happens here.
And all of the rage bait posts too (including in those subs).
/r/MadeMeSmile portrayed toxic positivity which felt out of touch with reality.
“I made my bed today. First time in 14 years 🙂”
- 45 thousand likes and 2 thousand comments.
Yes I absolutely hated that sub, either like your example or some awful news with a very slightly hopeful element.
“puppy whose legs were destroyed by a landmine learns to love again”
/r/upliftingnews was even worse at this.
Everything could just be reposted to r/ABoringDistopia or r/OrphanCrushingMachine
When someone would ask a good question that you also wanna know the answer to, but then all the “answers” were just jokes bc everyone wanna get upvotes. I dont really mind jokes but those times it was a bit sad, then sometimes no one would answer for real bc i guess they see 10 replies and assume surely one of them is real already.
Also repost bots.
And apple vs samsung feuds.
And sometimes looked like whenever some people try to organize action or protests, comments just spamming that “protests do nothing” or “voting does nothing,” or “what is this gonna do,” not suggesting any other solution either, almost like trying to encourage apathy? Or discourage action. Sometimes i wondered if those were bots.
Also the r/wooosh when someone didn’t understand a joke. .-.
I want users to be able to flag comments as “jokes” or “serious” on lemmy, so it is easy to sort by relevant comment thread. Especially inside jokes.
r/the_donald or anything like it. Kindly fuck off with all of that shit.
too late.
At least they’re hidden on their own instances
And may they stay that way.
Good fuckin’ riddance.
People who don’t know/acknowledge the difference between “free speech” and “hate speech”
unfortunately lemmy already has those people, but luckily enough they seem to organize in tidy communities that are easy to defederate
When people turn a popular post into an Oscars Acceptance Speech
ETA: wow thanks for the upvotes!
ETA2: omg my first gold award?? I couldn’t have made it without my mom and Jesus through whom all things are possible
Trick to avoiding that is to never get gold. Took me 10 years to never get gold once. I’m good at what I don’t do.
I always thought that was a sign it was astroturfed. Like my post? Give Reddit money!
This.
ETA: thanks for one upvote!😃
ETA2: thanks for two upvotes!😀😀
ETA3: woah?! 3?!?!?! thanks for three upvotes!😁😁😁
ETA4: this is more upvotes than I have money in my bank account! thanks for four upvotes!💵💵💵
ETA5: INASANE!!! thanks for five upvotes!😍😍😍
ETA6: I’ve never had more than SIX!!! thanks for six upvotes! 😱😱😱😱😱
ETA7: thanks for seven upvotes! I want to thank my mom, my brother, Jesus, Scott, Bill Gates, and my cat!!!🤗🤗
ETA8: What? Why y’all downvoting me now? Bring it back to seven!😤😤😤
ETA9: Unbelievable. -400 upvotes now. I lost my house, my car, and my job because of this! 😔😔😣😖😖😖😭😭
/s
Best Lemmy comment so far
😂 this really annoys me on Quora. I never understood why one feels the necessity to do so.
I also hate “happy cake day”, and “this”. Especially “this”. It’s a worthless comment that adds nothing more to the discussion than a simple upvote.
This
Moderators who coddle bigots.
Bigots.
There is a decent argument historically that communism and other left movements are extremist, racist, and anti-lgbtq. When you start banning concepts, you open your communities up to several things.
- Group think
- Banning of other radical ideologies that you may agree with
- You alienate those people from exposure to better concepts
- You jump start compaction cycles for large scale propaganda organizations that could lead to actual violence
I said “bigots” and you immediately jumped to “whatabout communists?!”
I provided four reasons why this was relevant and you jumped from communism to whataboutism? Talk about being intellectually lazy (Or a state-sponsored account)
I provided four reasons why this was relevant
After starting right out the gate with:
There is a decent argument historically that communism and other left movements are extremist, racist, and anti-lgbtq.
We’re talking about today. On a relatively new community. Frankly, I see no reason to tolerate the bigots you’re so keen on coddling until they take over and make this another version of reddit’s the_donald, complete with organizing nazi rallies. Particularly not with the vague and spurious “there is a decent argument” hand wavy FUD that you didn’t explain as a justification. Are a lot of people saying it?
Moving onto your 4 points, let’s look at how they worked so well over at reddit, with all the virtuous acceptance of intolerance and nazi-coddling they’ve done, shall we?
Group think
No, reddit has never had groupthink. Not for an instant. Thank god they let the bigots in otherwise they’d have groupthink!
Banning of other radical ideologies that you may agree with
Post anything on conservative even slightly counter to their bigoted orthodoxy and see how that goes. Hell, suggest that fascism is not amenable to reason and must be opposed with force anywhere on reddit and see how that goes.
You alienate those people from exposure to better concepts
They had abundant exposure to better concepts on reddit. Look how well that’s worked so far. Clearly the answer is to let them spread their shit all over lemmy.
You jump start compaction cycles for large scale propaganda organizations that could lead to actual violence
the_donald literally promoted and helped organize a nazi rally where Heather Heyer was run over and killed by a nazi’s car. On lovely ol’ bigot-coddling reddit. The sub was not banned for years afterwards. I do not want that for lemmy. I left reddit the instant an alternative that didn’t welcome bigotry got enough users.
Not everywhere has to entertain bigots. There’s already too many places that do. A community that welcomes bigots is unwelcoming to everyone but bigots. But holy shit, does it ever drive engagement.
Or a state-sponsored account
Oh, we’re throwing around wild accusations now?
This is my #1 also. So many people “just asking questions”
I also hate the circlejerk of people going “I cannot possibly comprehend being gay/trans/disabled/whatever but I let them do what they want!” They’re not aliens, you can listen to them explain what they are going through and have empathy. It’s not very complicated.
I think it’s a good attitude to serve as a stepping stone away from bigotry, it appeals to the bigots by offering some common ground while giving them a path to becoming less outwardly bigoted. Social progress takes time, especially with attitudes engrained as much as homophobia used to be.
Agreed, I grew up in a very conservative area and was pretty homophobic when I started college.
“They can do whatever they want, just don’t ask me to like it” was an important stepping stone towards “oh shit, love is love” and finally actually listening to the experience of gay people.
Ultimately “live and let live” is all we can ask of anyone. If that is their attitude then they aren’t a bigot. People are expecting too much of other people now - not embracing someone does not make someone a bigot.
Your starting position to me is honestly enough but unfortunately many people are way away from that. As a gay guy, I’d be happy with people just saying “do whatever you want want, just don’t ask me to like it”. The problem is too many people claim that with words but then actually act differently.
I don’t want to see your junk and I don’t care who you’re sleeping with. I don’t understand why that’s a hard position for people to take.
Don’t understand why you stereotyped people and basically insulted them and then wondered why people are offended? Yea? No one wants to see your fucking junk either. No, just because you’re not gay doesn’t make you any more or less likely to do what you are accusing them of.
What?
Oh don’t get me started on the sealioning from the bigots! “But we need to have more Valuable Discussion™ about my horseshit that’s been debunked a million times already!”
r/moderatepolitics was the worst for that.
Their moderation policy basically allowed any abhorrent view as long as it was expressed in a “civil” manner.
Trolls and racists could say things like “well, in my humble opinion, black people are just inherently violent and unintelligent” and anyone who got irate and called them out would get a warning and/or banned.
In my experience, the more obsessed a sub’s mods were about civil language, the more “be civil” meant “don’t sass the nazis.”
Won’t anyone think of the nazis?!
Can we stop talking about Reddit? Let it go.
Hey people grieve at different speeds. Some people got to acceptance on the same day, others are still in denial.
…there is nothing to grieve…it is a website…
I was a daily reddit user since 2008. I don’t know anything else. The withdrawal symptoms were absolutely brutal until I figured out how Lemmy works.
Leaving reddit was harder than quitting nicotine. Let me grieve.
You are allowed to grieve whatever you feel you lost, even a website.
This! We all mourn at our own pace. Some people may still be at the anger stage.
This
(I’m so sorry. I couldn’t resist)
You maybe should have tried harder to resist.
Yes, Lettit!
Cringe horny sexual questions on the main page every day: Reddit, what sound do you like to hear when you do the sex with your female partner? (and the post has 999999 upvotes and 99999 comments)
TIFU by sexing the sex when I sexed my sexy sexer.
Please don’t let /c/asklemmy become like /r/askreddit, which had half of the front-page posts being the same sex related questions every month.
“Women of reddit, what non sexual thing that guys so makes you horny?”
“What is the sexiest thing you regret doing?”
“How many cocks have you sucked while your cat judges you while waiting for you to feed it?”
It was bullshit.
I don’t know why the mods of r/AskReddit still accepts these kind of posts when it would be more appropriate to do an NSFW r/AskReddit (if it doesn’t already exist).
“Thanks for the gold kind stranger”
You forgot to add the "Edit: " part because they always have to come back and edit every 2 minutes.
Edit: “Whoa my first gold! Thanks!”
Edit2: “Wow this is silly, thanks everyone!”
Edit3: “While you’re here, let me tell you my life story.”
EditAdNauseum: High pitched ear ringing
Uhhhg. Reddit award acceptance speeches like anyone cares.
“Oh wow thank you for giving a giant corporation your money because of something I said!”
You realize that if things get weird enough at Reddit, they may attempt federation (or at least to pull federated content).
Then the fediverse can charge reddit an obscene amount for a api. The money can be used to pay the devs and support development
No, they can’t. The fediverse doesn’t work like that, it isn’t controlled by one entity, the most individual instances could do is defederate from Reddit.
/s on stuff that’s so obviously sarcastic. The begining of that to me was a big indicator for how stupid the reddit userbase had become.
It depends how obvious, but honestly I don’t think it’s that bad. Some non-native English speakers might not get sarcasm, and it also depends a bit on culture. British people are a fair bit more sarcastic than Americans and it’s not always obvious in text.
No, really?
Yes bro that’s what we are talking about
This may be an unpopular option since I’ve already seen it across lemmy, but the ____porn communities. I’d like to browse pictures of nice landscapes or exotic cars without worry about someone around me noticing “PORN” on my screen.
At this point it seems very old internet, something that made sense when those communities were established, but now is unnecessary gratuitous and not socially acceptable.
Do you mean actual NSFW content or things being called “_____ porn” like “unix porn” or “fight porn”?
not op but they mean the latter
There is (was?) a ”nosillysuffix” sub that would aggregate all those *porn subs.
I saw a post about a community created here called “pixel passport” which I thought was a hell of a lot better that “earth porn.”
I really like that name. Way better than Earthporn. Thank you for sharing, I subscribed!
Link: !pixelpassport@lemm.ee
Indeed. I like ‘Earthporn’ too, but I think it should be all nature pictures that look like genitalia and suchlike. Rocks or trees that look like penises for example.
EarthPixels. CarPixels. PornPixels. HistoryPixels. This could work.
Those are great names! I would subscribe to more communities with names like that.
Voat, when it was still around, had this same discussion and settled on using _Pix for everything.
Damn, I had forgotten how obnoxious that was on Reddit. Blocked all of those years ago because it was just unnecessary and a gross way to qualify otherwise unremarkable photos.
Nothing like someone peaking over your shoulder and seeing you’re browsing r/AnimalPorn…
I totally agree with you. Hopefully lemmy can be a little more mature with community names. (Yeah, yeah… I know the hypocrisy of my username… It’s my gamertag)
I agree. I think it’s terrible name, and ti just invites unnecessary drama.
I agree, but I also think that porn should still be welcome here. The issue is there needs to be better control over it entering the feeds, not that the communities themselves should be abolished.
I think the above commenter is referring to stuff like EarthPorn or FoodPorn or UnixPorn
