I am 14M(AGAB) and started feeling gender dysphoria after starting puberty. At first I thought that I was agender. Soon, I found myself imagining being an AGAB agender, so I decided that I was not agender but a trans girl. However, after identifying as trans, I only feel gender dysphoria once a while, and it’s not string enough as before. I am now thinking that I might not be trans, and what I felt before was just a normal puberty experience. I’m afraid that I was thinking about myself all wrong.
Let’s reframe that. Instead of thinking “I don’t have much dysphoria so maybe I’m not trans” you should ask yourself “what do I think I can do to have the most enjoyable life possible?”.
You’re allowed to change your mind, you’re allowed to make suboptimal decisions, and most decisions are reversible so for those you don’t really have to consider long-term consequences. If you want to identify some way, even just to test it out, go for it! You can change that later if it doesn’t fit, and there’s not much harm to it. Even if you’re mistaken, it usually just means you ended up experiencing more awkward time than necessary, not much of a consequence.
The hardest part is probably gonna be getting over the fear of being wrong, of feeling like you lied to people. You didn’t, there’s nothing wrong with being mistaken. But I know the brain gets anxious over it 🫂. I hope you have a wonderful life wherever it takes you.