Overthinking while drawing. I’ll think to myself “is this too little contrast? Too much? Are the shadows too blurry here? Does this fur look flat? It looks flat. Is the form too blurry around here? Let’s try again!” I’ve always been considered a perfectionist, and that’s one of the reasons I blame for a long time between submitting drawings!
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right now, job hunting, but as soon as i can stop job hunting, my answer will change to working.
Job hunting is so extraordinarily awful that I guarantee you I will overstay my welcome when I’m working for my next abusive and micromanaging boss.
Nothing. As in procrastinate by doing basically nothing.
I’m feeling that!! I’m on summer break and i have so many things i need to do - even just simple paperwork that would yield $$ - but i can’t get motivated.
Someone not too long ago asked me how I motivate myself, and I was quite puzzled by the question, like “what do you mean motivate myself? That’s not how motivation works?”, because to me motivation has always come from external sources, like people, situations, experiences etc. But no, apparently some (many? most?) people can somehow motivate themselves. I’d like to have that power please.
intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation.
You never do things for yourself? No hobbies or anything that are basically “pointless” aside from your own personal satisfaction? Never done something to challenge or better yourself with no reward from someone or something else?
Of course, I do things because they’re fun to do. But those things don’t require any effort. When people talk about motivating yourself it’s usually about using the motivation as a tool to do things that take a lot of effort.
yeah but those wont pay the bills
Chewing nicotine gum.
Havent had a smoke in years but trying to give the gum up means I turn into a raging asshole.
This is me but with the nicotine mints! I slowly started mixing in other “regular” mints, but it doesn’t have the same kick! So after an extended period of time I get grumpy and just go back to the nicotine mints…
Maybe talk to your doctor about bupropion (wellbutrin/zyban). It’s a unique antidepressant medication that work by inhibiting reuptake of norepinephrine and dopamine (other reuptake inhibitors focus mostly on serotonin or norepinephrine). When testing it, they found that many people stopped smoking, so it’s now prescribed for people that want to stop using nicotine. You likey wouldn’t be on it for long, just a few months until you get the cravings to stop and readjust your life to no nicotine.
No way, Ive been on the antidepressant merry-go-round before. They were not a pleasant experience for me.
When I used nicotine gum what I did was a started switching between the nicotine gum and regular gum. I eventually ran out of nicotine gum and just chewed regular gum for a while. I think the dependency and money is what pissed me off enough to stop, anger is always good motivation.
Daydreaming. I’m sick of it, but I keep going there.
Not to downplay your issue but I kinda wish I had something like this right now. I’ve been dealing with a lot of anxiety recently, to the point where my brain feels like it’s short circuiting. I wish I had places I could go in my mind to escape.
I get it, most of my life I’ve had episodes that are more like yours, and my brain just found this and it doesn’t want to let go for a reason. The first couple of months I thought it was the best escape, but once I realized I couldn’t stop, I’ve been despairing. I feel like I’m going mad but more quietly rather than explosively.
What about Tiananmen Square…?!? That was kinda cool for the CCP!
I wasn’t there but maybe someone here was.
Oh wait.
No.
They were all killed and then turned to mush by tanks repeatedly driving over the bodies and then hosed dune the drains.
GLORY TO THE CCP AND HOW WONDERFUL THEY ARE TO ALL THE PEOPLE.
What about Tiananmen Square…?!? That was kinda cool for the CCP!
I wasn’t there but maybe someone here was.
Oh wait.
No.
They were all killed and then turned to mush by tanks repeatedly driving over the bodies and then hosed dune the drains.
GLORY TO THE CCP AND HOW WONDERFUL THEY ARE TO ALL THE PEOPLE.
Eating Slim Jims.
The fact that electronic interfaces keep getting worse and more complicated. It’s basically a race to the bottom at this point. I truly feel for the older generations. I don’t just mean the current older generation, I mean all older generations. As a person gets older, they have a harder time understanding change. And yet the world is basically removing the ability to do things without electronics. When the current group that is 20 years old, when you guys get to be 80, the interfaces will have changed so much, you basically will be screwed.
Watched my gramma slip into “i can’t change the channel on the tv with a remote that only has 2 buttons” from can you fix the vcr (press the tv/video button) again
I had to go to urgent care the other day and the only way to check in was to scan a QR code and fill out a god awful, half broken form on a random third party website. There were no error messages. The site would timeout if you spent too long on one page, so you’d have to start over. The amount of people who had all sorts of issues is nuts.
This was “an upgrade”
Now imagine if you are 85. I do not understand why companies make change for the sake of change.
Fucking eating just too much that I can’t meet my weight loss goals.
I’m not overweight by any means, but if I don’t fix my diet, all the exercise I do isn’t worth nearly as much.
Running is surprisingly fun once you get in shape enough to enjoy it – and has an effect on what i eat bc planning to go running later in the day has a pretty big effect on how mindfully i consume. I can’t have a huge meal or chug water last minute and feel good while running.
I have never, ever, in my life enjoyed running. I never got up to long distances, but used to be able to do about 5k without too much trouble. An hour of swimming? No problem. 30 minutes of high intensity rowing? Happy to do that. Cycling 50k? I’m all over that. But running just makes me feel bad.
Exercise isn’t worth nearly as much as eating habits anyway.
A false narrative of exercise being like weight loss currency has been promoted for way too long.
When losing weight, it’s “kilos in the kitchen, grams in the gym”. You can lose weight with no exercise just with a caloric deficit.
Read “the hackers diet” or “the 4 hour body” for more info.
Yes and no.
You have to eat less than you consume, and going to the gym doesn’t “burn calories” in a significant enough amount to make a difference. So there you’re right.
However, the biggest factor in your consumption rate is how much muscle you have. You can be laying in bed, but your muscles still need feeding. You just don’t keep muscles very long laying in bed all the time.
So, does the gym help weight loss? No, not directly, but increasing your muscle mass can.
to add to what you’re saying It seems counterproductive to overemphasize exercise over diet or vice-versa. I think adding perspective also helps. -Doing a quick google search it’s alleged that 1-lb of fat requires a caloric deficit of ~3500 calories. Walking 1-mile burns 100± calories which means it would require roughly 35-miles of walking to burn 1-lb of fat. -That’s a challenging proposition to acheive without adding extra food just for increased energy and as you added, that doesn’t necessarily account for increased muscle mass. It’s also pretty easy to develop a nutritional deficiency through diet alone and speaking anecdotally, I’ve never achieved much weight loss without a combination of both diet and exercise.
Not a doctor but if you have some will try switching some meals to Soylent or another meal replacement drink. For the past ~7 years my breakfast and usually lunch has been Soylent, and I have a nice big real food meal for dinner.
It’s really easy to track calories with meal replacement drinks and at least for me it’s way healthier than what I was eating previously.
Not encouraging you or anyone to take Ozempic but the fact that they work so well for weight loss proves that there is a biological pathway that reinforces overeating. It’s beyond the dopamine feedback loop - there is an actual biochemical reason that we are compelled to overeat. It validates the idea that being successful at weight management isn’t decided by willpower alone. Some people are just more biochemically predisposed to overeat.
These new GLP-1 receptor agonists have shown promise mitigating many compulsive behaviors from overeating to alcoholism to behavioral compulsions. It’s a new area of pharmacology and I’m super excited to watch them discover novel treatments for all manners of issues.
Exercise is good for you even you don’t lose weight
I have the opposite problem. I don’t eat enough. On several occasions, I have gone upto 3 days without eating. Closer friends are often worried about my nutrition. It’s gotten so bad, that my last 3 girlfriends have made it a topic in the relationship, while I have friends that let me come over for dinner literally any day I want. They then makes sure I eat enough.
To me, eating can be such a chore. It’s like eating is something I have to do just like showering. I can find it rewarding on some occasions, but unlike showering when I feel brand new afterwards, once I eat, I get dumb, slow, bloated, and feel heavy. If I haven’t eaten throughout the day, I feel light, energetic, focused, and free.
Anyway, I find it interesting to be on the other end of unhealthy eating continuum. What about eating makes it hard to stop?
Mmm food is delicious. I just ate a whole wheat sourdough pastry from a local bakery – it was a bialy with caramelized onions. A very perfect summer Saturday snack.
Thinking, I wish my brain would just stop.
Buying tiny thinkcentres like the m710q.
It’s the best ever bang for the buck for almost anything except gaming. IMO of course.
Two DDR4 slots, an ssd Plus a 2.5drive.
Mint runs perfektly.
USB 3, some 6 of them IIRC.
Super silent.
You can get one for like 40€ or the double for a quad core.
Plug in two screens and just hack away.
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I want to stop eating food that is making me overweight.
Have you tried healthy alternatives tho? While i was never overweight, like most people i did enjoy unhealthy food way more than healthy food. But after a lot of trying, i get as excited for roasted Brussel sprouts and asparagus as i was for deep fried bullshit. There is a lot of food that isn’t as boring as it seems and it’s also healthy.
My friend has a history of overeating and was about 70 lbs heavier than she is now. She started a keto diet that helped her get to her current weight/size, and now employs a modified diet where she goes keto regularly rather than stay on a strict diet all the time. It seems to work well for her since she can regularly eat whatever she wants between breaks. If you’re interested, I could ask her for online resources. Let me know 🙂👍
Than you kind stranger. I am actually doing modified keto now with no salt. Thanks again!
I started counting calories. And it’s works pretty well. Maybe give it a try.
Dreading the future.
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