My wife and I are going to a concert in a few months which is considered ‘girl pop’ and we have standing tickets. I wanted to get a look at what a show by this artist is like, so I search YouTube just to find it’s a bunch of young adult woman screaming anytime something is done like a dance move as an example, but this just isn’t me.
I have a worry that someone is going to start filming me for being ‘grumpy’ or whatever, usually I wouldn’t think this much into it, but I’m already going to be sticking out like a sore thumb and in the current year I always assume I’m in the background of someone’s video at any given moment and I don’t want my awkwardness being confused for anything else other than what it is.
Am I in over my head, or should I just not overthink it and try to enjoy myself?
Just go mate. I’m often the only guy in my pilates class.
What band / singer?
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Feminazgul
BTS
Twice
Jade Thirlwall, former member of little mix
You must really love your wife haha. Seriously, try to enjoy the concert. You’re already going, so you might as well try to enjoy yourself.
Had the same feelings going to a Taylor Swift concert with my grilfriend as a middle age man. Turns out, nobody paid attention to me because they where to busy screaming their lungs out and filming the show. Yeah, I could be a background stander in someone’s video, but they definitely would be the main character, not me. Everybody was there to have a good time and enjoy the artists and other people’s outfit. Don’t worry, you’ll do fine. Especially if you also like the music, that will be a connection. And usually the crowd for these artists will make you forget being uncomfortable and you start dancing and singing yourself a bit. Because if you see people crying, screaming, moving as if they are epilleptic but actually are dancing, you are less bothered with how you yourself look. Only regret I had was that I didn’t get to experience the whole living up to the concert feeling, just because of the anxiety.
Don’t overthink it, have fun, bring good earplugs.
No seriously, there are plugs meant for shows, designed to not butcher it too much, merely attenuate it all a bit.
First, you’ll avoid tinnitus.
Second, it blocks out quite a bit of the other show-goers background noise.If you’re taller, always make sure there aren’t any shorter people behind you. If you’re having fun, smile, move a little, enjoy the atmosphere. You’ve got nothing to worry about and have a great time!
im 6’5, better opt for a hack saw before the show i guess.
Hah, just be aware and courteous and it really won’t matter.
We all run the risk of becoming a meme, look further than the recent Coldplaygate….
Go, have fun and stay in the moment.
With that said why on earth did you get standing tickets? That just sounds miserable and I didn’t think those were even allowed anymore. Also it sure seems to me that you don’t have any interest in this band, so why are you going?
With that said why on earth did you get standing tickets? That just sounds miserable and I didn’t think those were even allowed anymore
I’ve literally never been to a concert that had seating.
Actually, that’s not true… But it’s only like maybe two out of hundreds that had seating.
I’m surprised to someone say that they don’t think standing tickets are allowed any more, what gave you that impression?
Regardless, being in the standing section is exciting and usually a very good view. It’s not necessarily the right atmosphere for every person or every show, but if you enjoy the feeling of being in the crowd as everyone moves together it’s great
I’m surprised to someone say that they don’t think standing tickets are allowed any more, what gave you that impression?
Because there is a very long list of many people being crushed to death in stand room only areas.
That’s largely limited by ticket sales nowadays, right? Responsible / law-abiding venues (in countries with good regulation on it) don’t sell so many standing tickets that the risk gets too high
The wiki page you linked in the other reply has a link to a list page https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_fatal_crowd_crushes
You’ll notice that very few recent ones are at concerts, and those that are consistently involve serious mismanagement of the event and usually something inciting large-scale fear responses
You are right that it’s less safe that being seated, and you do need to watch out for your surroundings and be ready to get yourself out if you think it’s too much. It is a problem that we know how to handle for the most part without banning all standing areas, though
Like where? I can only assume you’ve never been to a large pop concert
I have been going to concerts for 50 years.
The sort of event you’re describing is incredibly rare, and I can still only assume you haven’t been to a concert with a GA section in decades. You’re much more likely to die in a car accident on the way to a concert than by a crowd crush at a concert
Standing because i have only ever been to one concert 11 years ago and it was in the cheap seats and i do enjoy the music as does my wife but I’m just a very reserved person and i felt like being in a crowd id be the sore thumb but as others have said i doubt anyone is going to be looking at me
Don’t listen to them, standing section is almost always the right move.
Put on a dress and do your nails they’ll love you.
Just stay with your wife, it is not weird to accompany her…
You will probably feel “out of place” and there will probably be few people of your demographic… But no one cares. If you enjoy your time with your wife and enjoy the concert, it doesn’t really matter.
I been to a bunch of goth metal concerts as a middle aged man. It’s mostly young people dressed in black goth apparel. I’m there as a serious middle aged guy in a normal T-shirt and jeans. It’s never been a problem. Many times the other concert goers will be quite welcoming to share their music taste with someone.
I’m at “extreme” metal shows. Usually in business casual, and I used to joke that I was a studded leather bracelet and a tattoo under their minimum. Nobody cares, hell, I got hit on by someone asking whose dad I was.
While you’re there, you’ll probably see someone twice as out of place as you, and immediately forget about them.
Have fun! Don’t overthink it.
You’ll be among the pool of husbands and dads who also had to go. Enjoy not waiting for the bathroom the whole concert.
But yes, you are overthinking it. Go have fun and do what you do naturally. Maybe you don’t have to constantly be giddy every second for 2 hours.
Put on your shortest shorts, ask your wife to do your makeup, and dance like no one is watching.
People don’t go to concerts to look at the audience. If anyone has a problem they are a gate keeping moron.
Just go, dude, like if the “girls” in the band weren’t hitting their 30’s
