The context makes it worse, but I’m just trying to gauge how fucked up normal people would find this, because being raised by this kind of person messed with my calibration.
Very. When I want to get off, I don’t want my Mum involved.
The only thing more fucked up is if you broke both arms.
Not even with broken arms?
Why must I keep being reminded of this :(
If anyone isn’t familiar: they’re referencing a rather touching story, definitely Google it.
Touching is the right verb.
this isn’t reddit
Haha I know a /r/neverbrokeabone member when I see one.
This is the internet!
Your poor mother with broken arms most certainly should’nt be involved.
Pretty expensive gift. Most fleshlights are pretty expensive. Do what you will with that info.
Yeah, I know the bitch spent $100 on something for him when I was prostituting myself to afford $60 for Pearson’s fucking chemistry question textbook.
I heard all the books are free now? Considering you’re on here you probably knew that already though…
Don’t he’ll end up asking you to clean it
Same energy as grandad buying his grandson a sex doll. Make sure to not buy the Gazorpazorps Gwendolyn model.
I didn’t know what a fleshlight was and assumed OP misspelt Flashlight, assuming OP expected something bigger for their 18th birthday. Needless to say, the comments were quite confusing.
If your brother was 17, and your mother did this, and a mandatory reporter found out they would be calling CPS - level of abnormal.
its extremely wierd, and getting close to oedipus/fruedian territory. maybe as a gag gift, if the son is doing something like porn, but even that is sitll wierd.
Even having a funny and weird relationship with my mother, this would be suuuuper cringe. And inappropriate.
Pretty fucking weird.
I’m going against the majority.
It can be made into a weird situation, but the act itself is pragmatic and likely comes from a caring place.
Every parent with a son knows that theyre buffing the helmet any chance they get as teenagers. They’re gonna make messes, ruin washcloths, use all the hand lotion, etc. Any parent who thinks their son ain’t beating their meat like it owes them money is delusional. Long before your kids get to masturbation age, the parent(s) should have talked about it. If you wait until they get to the age of shame, that is going to be an uncomfortable and unproductive conversation. If you have had an ongoing and open dialog about sex, masturbation, their bodies and other topics, talking about some of the details later will not be a taboo topic. Thusly if the parent offers a masturbatory device to the child, it won’t be weird unless someone wants to make it that way. If the conversations have not taken place and you still want to get your kid a sex toy, you could just order something online and leave it for them without saying anything. You could also get them a gift card to the sex store so they can get something for themself. While I presume most teenage boys dont want to share their private acts of self - gratification with their parent, there is no reason why there cannot be practical honesty about them. Get your kid a sex toy, leave it in his room, and unless he wants to talk about it, assume that he will get many hours of satisfaction from it.
Giving their son a sex toy, whatever, not common, but it can help have a normal conversation about sex and realistic expectations.
For his birthday, kind of weird. I don’t think it should so formal a thing. Just so it and have the conversation about safe sex and how porn isn’t like real sex.
For his 18th, uhhhh little late to the party.
Okay but also giving a kid a sex toy before their 18th birthday is how you end up on a list and have to tell your neighbors about it.
I think most teens want parents who are caring and involved, but not in your face to this extent. They embarrass easy
Abnormal meaning “not normal?” Very abnormal. As others have mentioned there are some edge cases where this isn’t terrible, but in general it’s a pretty bad look.
Depends. Did she get a custom one made? Very VERY weird. Did she get one from her favorite porn actress? Quite weird. Did she just get any old one? Still a bit weird, but eh. Weirder things have happened to me.
- Talking about sex: Perfectly healthy and is something every parent should do.
- Talking about sex toys and flashlights: Also perfectly normal.
- Requesting/offering help in purchasing a flashlight (e.g. take my credit card and buy something under my name or driving them to a sex shop): Normal
- Choosing the fleshlight for them and thus making the decision in exactly what kind of sensations they experience while masturbating: Out of bounds.
(lol) every parent should talk about proper illumination!
Keeping a flashlight handy and charged could save your life.
(It could, but also, that auto incorrect made me giggle.)
As far as societal norms go, a 9/10.
As far as actually being unhealthy? Depends. If this is a sex positive, giving you the tools you need, and being supportive type of thing, i would say this is unconventional but healthy. If it’s some sort of personal involvement or insertion into your sex life, I would say this is very unhealthy.
Your mom getting involved in any sort of sexual topic can be really uncomfortable, but that doesn’t make it wrong, it just needs to be in a healthy, mature, and appropriate way.
“Abnormal” is pretty clear - this isn’t something I’d expect to see from one mom in a thousand - maybe ten thousand.
But so what? I doubt it’s an unhealthy act or situation, so fuck those other 9,999 moms! Actually, don’t - you have a fleshlight.
