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  • snooggums@lemmy.world
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    28 days ago

    I’m currently imagining you seeing a group of people talking on the sidewalk and you forcing your way into their space and insisting that you be a part of it because you saw their group existed.

    That is what you are describing.

    • 9bananas@feddit.org
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      27 days ago

      sure, if you change absolutely everything about what i said and twisted it around into a completely different situation that has nothing to do with anything being discussed, you might have a point!

      i never once said i want to be a part of it.

      i never once said that their existence is a problem.

      in fact i’ve said the opposite multiple times.

      it’s their insistence on being public and then getting annoyed when someone wanders in on accident, assuming entirely reasonably, that is a public space, since, you know, it IS public, that i take issue with.

      i don’t want to participate, and i respect their rules.

      what i don’t want is posts either complaining about others missing the rules and posting by mistake, and what i also don’t want are posts like this one claiming that having communities which are clearly, by their own rules, private communities that are kept open to the public being somehow fine. which then necessitates idiotic spam like this very post.

      you want a private corner for your group? fine, set it to private. that’s exactly what that is for.

      if you want to reach lots of people, keep it open. and expect people to interpret said “open” sign to actually mean open, because that is what you willfully set it to.

      wanting it both ways is some serious bs…