I just block that community. Not like out of malice or anything but it prevents me from commenting on a post without looking at the comm name. I try to make a habit of not spending time in places where I am not welcome

I did this accidentally the other day.

The way i see it, the right to free speech is a two-sided thing. If there’s a right to free speech for one side, there’s also a right not to listen for the other side. It’s ok to block a community to not have to see their content if you’re not allowed to talk back at them. That’s not being misogynist, that’s just fair. Same rights for everyone.

gonna be honest, I don’t read the sidebar for 99% of subs that pop up in the all feed. Hell, I didn’t even check what sub I’m in now until halfway through typing this comment.

I’m fairly sure that only people that use Lemmy are: communist trans women that are Linux aficionados. They may or may have also dabbled in being a femboy and being a furry.

Joking aside, it’s time to get serious.

Dear Men,

If you a man who understands why women need to feel space. This comment isn’t for you. Feel free to upvote me and downvote all my enemies.

When women (cis and trans) don’t feel safe they leave spaces. This also applies to men too. No one wants to be somewhere were they don’t feel safe. When a bunch of women leave that means the ratio of men to women goes higher until critical mass of all men and no women. When that happens, we have what is called a "sausage party". Now some men would love a sausage party. Ask yourself, do you want a sausage party?

If no, stop getting your balls in a twist. WomensStuff is not hurting anyone, they’re not going out brigarding or harassing or picking fights with other people. All users of WomensStuff want is a place where they can get together and talk about things that matter to them. If women feel safe on Lemmy, you don’t get a sausage party. There is also the risk of scaring off all the wonderful original women content creators of Lemmy NSFW. The fact is women are awesome and there should be more of them.

Now, if you want a sausage party and recognizance that women are people who deserve to feel safe. You can create your own sausage party community. You do you.

Now, if you want don’t want/want sausage party and are toxic asshole. Go start your own instance, where you all can circle jerk each other while complaining why women don’t want to be around you. Hopefully, one day you’ll come to the realization the reason why women don’t want to be around you is because your asshole. With that realization you’ll come to the conclusion that women want to feel safe in a world that doesn’t allow them that freedom.

Cause at the end of the day, WomensStuff **DOES NOT AFFECT YOUR LIFE IN ANY MEANINGFUL WAY. ** Go be angry at the slow stripping of rights of anyone who isn’t a white male. Or how major countries are taking their sweet ass time to recognizance the Israel is committing genocide. Or that the rich keep getting richer while the rest of us worse off each year. Or how global climate change is going to end us as a species. If you have the time and energy to get mad at small community on Lemmy, you’re life is fucking easy.

Sincerely,

Me

Damn, lotta moid seething itt

Shout out to OP for recognizing the struggle and respecting the rule (I thought this was a 196 post at first!)

Men will lurk for years without ever commenting in some communities, and then (ITT) lose their minds when confronted with the possibility of a community they are welcome to read, but asked not to comment. Bros, you were already doing that!! Yes, it’s hard, that’s what this post is about. But you can do it!!

fuck that bullshit. while they do have the right to exclude who they want, i have the right to be harshly critical. and i will say that any community where one is compelled to disclose any part of their identity as a requirement to participate is a toxic one. i suspect any account is subject to being pressured into proving they aren’t a man if the mods want to harass someone that way. this is why i am not and will never be a feminist in a million years.

I am pretty disappointed eh. For obvious reasons.

This entire thread makes me embarrassed to be on lemmy. On the other hand, a college course one of my kids is taking is using this thread as an example of men simultaneously demanding inclusion in all spaces while also actively antagonizing other people out of spaces. Say hi to Langara College, whiny men! I’m embarrassed to be counted as one of you.

Im a dude who posts on femcels a lot because i like the memes. but I kinda like dick so iono i think i get a pass?

It’s lemmy, the likelihood is probably about 25% of those threads are actual women

Stupid expectation to have. If they want women posts/comments only, lemmy needs a feature for communities not to be advertised on the main page unless subscribed, to keep people from accidentally replying. Or does that feature exist and they are intentionally not using it?

Honestly, excluding any gender from commenting on the public internet is fucking braindead stupid. Also - how do they define “woman”?

From my own experience, women-only spaces tend to revolve around men, ironically. I can almost bet my left ball on the fact that top post on that sub is about men, not women.