I used to have the same issue as well with being envious of how cute other people are and being socially anxious. I’m only 2 years old than you, and I’ve mostly gotten over it and I’m sure you will as well with time.
I think what helps a lot here is working on your self confidence and self love. Chances are, you’re also really cute and awesome just like those people you mentioned above.
Please persist. I know it’s hard but those fuckers want us dead. Don’t give them what they want. Our existence is resistance.
There’s an in development technology called in vitro gametogenesis (IVG) that would allow same sex couples as well as infertile people to have biological children. It’s been in the works for over a decade and as far as I am aware has not yet been tested on humans.
Thanks for the reply! It’s definitely interesting to see how varied everyone’s timelines are. I am learning that I developed quite quickly so I am considering looking more into getting a Klinefelter’s test too. I hope you get the results you’re hoping for on your test!
I wanted to get tested to see my starting levels, but my endo said it wasn’t necessary so I didn’t get one.
I really appreciate the information about androgen insensitivity syndrome, this my first time hearing of it, and I think it’s quite possible that I could have it.
Thanks for the reply. I always assumed that because it showed a range it was the earliest possible start time to the latest end time for some reason, but yeah it makes more sense that they are averaged and very general.
You can totally do it! It takes a lot of practice and dedication, and yes, you are going to sound off at first but that’s normal.
I suspect the reason your voice didn’t sound as feminine as you wanted is because you need to brighten your resonance more. Even with a deep pitch, a bright resonance will make your voice sound noticably more feminine.
The other thing it could be is perhaps your voice was too breathy, because it’s not natural sounding and it’s an easy mistake to make. I even made that mistake myself when I started out.
Pitch actually doesn’t matter too much. Like others in this thread have said, resonance is way more important.
For example, it’s actually really difficult for me to talk in my old voice, because I haven’t used it in such a long time. While I can get the pitch down if I try hard enough, I can’t do the same for my resonance, so my voice still sounds somewhat feminine even when I’m talking in a low pitched voice.
I never practiced for a set amount of time. I’d just do it kind of randomly whenever I felt like it. Usually I would practice at night when I was having trouble sleeping, but I’d sometimes do it while driving as well.
Also random hot tip: Have a word that you can say really well in your feminine voice that can be worked into any sentence, such as um or like, because then you can use it to recalibrate when you feel your feminine voice starting to falter.
Yep. Multiple times I have had Google maps direct me to back employee only entrances instead of the regular entrances. Sometimes it seems like Google doesn’t even recognize that the front entrance even exists.
I actually just looked it up and was going to edit my original comment but you already replied! Lol anyways, what I found was this:
Anatomically, penile and scrotal skin have no self-lubricating potential, though penile inversion vaginoplasty may produce some sexually responsive secretory fluid when urethral tissue is incorporated and lubricating genitourinary accessory glands are retained.
From this source: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/37105933/
That’s interesting. I’ve only heard from people who got PI that theirs is always dry. I am aware that the shaft can secrete fluids, but I didn’t think it could be that much.
Yes, I am referring to multiple different surgeries. The colon one is a sigmoid vaginoplasty. I am also aware that a vaginoplasty can be performed without PI. However there are surgeries that use PI and then use peritoneum to add additional depth.
This link here is to a surgery that uses PI and the peritoneum.
Yes, and also the one where they use a piece of the colon, unless I am mistaken, that also uses penile inversion.
There are multiple ways vaginoplasties are done. One is penile inversion, which results in a dry vaginal canal. Others use penile inversion plus some moist tissue so that the vaginal canal isn’t dry. Sometimes this tissue secretes excess fluid and that’s what the liners are for.
Yeah, I forgot that there are different variants better suited for cis women. I’m pretty sure you’re correct that she does need something a bit different.
I am a trans woman so I understand how it feels to not have the hormones you want in your body. It’s literal hell. You are allowed to have your own feelings, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Your wife’s mental state is just in the gutter right now and that’s why she’s lashing out at you.
I’d recommend seeing a professional so she can get prescribed estradiol. That’s really the only thing that’s going to fix it.
Congratulations! I’ve been considering getting a vaginoplasty, but I am worried about the maintenance, such as dilating. Do you find it to be a lot of work or cumbersome at all?
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I started my transition as a minor, and unfortunately my parents were unsupportive of me getting HRT at the time, but I probably would have started it about 1 to 1.5 years in from my egg crack. I didn’t get it until about 4 years in, and that’s also when I decided to fully socially transition, because estrogen gave me a lot of confidence. I did partially social transition about 6 months after my egg crack, where I was only out to my family. I would be getting other things like hair removal and etc, but I can’t afford them at the moment.
Also the day before my first appt for HRT, I was very nervous and somewhat doubtful, but I went in and I was so happy walking out of that appointment. Now if any doubts wiggle their way into my mind, I just remember how happy estrogen makes me, and how happy I was to get it.
Yeah, I used to puppeteer a guy around so more people would like me as well, but I eventually accepted that some people are not going to like me no matter what. It’s really important to be kind to yourself. Be who you want to be, not who others expect you to be ♥️