If someone wants to give up dating due to their looks, age or genetics (that includes mental state) that’s a totally valid reason if you ask me. As long as it doesn’t translate to misogyny no one will get hurt. However a lot of people seem to be ticked off by this idea, why?
Yes it is. People who are not into dating for that reason (aro) are explicitly being called incels by you in your reply to me. Anyone who isn’t dating without being aro is an incel. You’re a bigot.
You’re the kind of person who would be calling a guy gay (but using the really derogatory terms, fag … ) because he doesn’t have a girlfriend in the last century.
I’m old and feel sorry for people who just want to be left alone for their own reasons. Why is this so called liberal - which in my mind means live and let live - baying-mob so much more vindictive and nasty than I could have ever imagined (rhetoric question).
To be clear, that list (aro and “black-pilled”) was not all-inclusive. There are plenty of people who just don’t want to date, for whatever positive reason (e.g. too busy, focusing on other things, not feeling like making the effort) or even some with negative reasons (e.g. not feeling like they are in good working order mentally, just got out of a relationship and want to spend some time on their own, trauma) that aren’t aro or “black-pilled.” THIS LIST IS ALSO NOT ALL-INCLUSIVE.
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Just… don’t. Stop throwing the word around so spuriously, or it could lose its meaning. It’s an important word, and using it like that leads to the kind of linguistic drift that takes the meaning out of the language.
I’m not interested in pills, black or otherwise. Single ‘l’ - as in beer - maybe! Haha
Live and let live. If individuals are obviously not leading a compassionate life then keep away, but mass labelling an entire set of individuals that you do not know as incels - noting the hateful meaning of that word - is the very definition of bigotry.
I though we’d got rid of labelling people for their dating preferences when being lesbian, gay or bi stopped being particularly note-worthy in the glam-rock era. It’s a shame that you’re still behaving like those knuckle draggers of the 1970s with a different target.
You have given two options: aro or incel. There is an enormous third option which is unavailable to anyone but you, I guess.
Apparently I’m not allowed to use the word ‘bigot’ for a bigot. You don’t define my language use.