If someone wants to give up dating due to their looks, age or genetics (that includes mental state) that’s a totally valid reason if you ask me. As long as it doesn’t translate to misogyny no one will get hurt. However a lot of people seem to be ticked off by this idea, why?
I’ve only heard it used by and applied to incels who are only trying to twist the narrative of why they can’t get laid. They aren’t choosing to not date, they are just lying to themselves that they have chosen to be alone, when in reality they are just undateable asshats.
Aromantic and asexual people don’t need to delude themselves into why they don’t date. They might go the other way, tho, due to social pressure to be “normal.” (IE deluding themselves that they NEED to date)
I think this is it. The difference between having a ‘type’ (normal) and being ‘black-pilled’ (weird) is the misogyny.