Unless your a true progressive, leftist, socialist, ACAB, ANTIFA outside the 2 regressive parties your views are mostly the same to preserve cancerous capitalism .
Who would be so dumb to marry /be with someone of opposite mind?
This study was a waste of money that could have gone to community because its that DUH alread established!!!
American defaultism and idiological label simplification, we meet again
Your graphic is WAY out of date since trump’s second term started.
Yeah, if my wife didn’t think other people deserved the right to exist it’s would put quite the strain on our relationship.
especially if it turns out you are one of the people who doesn’t deserve the right to exist, just that she magically makes an exception for you specifically because you’re one of the good ones
My wife has a friend who is a quirky anime loving girl with no desire for kids, not religious, and makes good money in healthcare.
Her friend is married to a hardcore Trump cultist that really wants kids, is very religious, and despite not having a good paying job, wants his wife to stay home and tend to the future kids.
My wife and I just honestly don’t understand how they are married.
Don’t worry, it’s only a matter of time and they will join you in not understanding.
Or they become a bangmaid. One of the two.
Lol that divorce is coming, it’s just a matter of “when” not “if.”
This sounds like something I would tell my friends as a “joke” when we where all very tired.
I cant imagine marrying a fascist
Why would anyone marry a person who openly hates women, minorities, LGBTQ+, and anybody they deem different?
Because one or the other person in the relationship isn’t being honest which happens quote frequently. People in relationships lie by omission all the time.
In a relationship, sure. In a marriage? Can’t help to fault them for not finding out.
My wife lied about who she was and what she wanted from me for 20 years before she started fucking another guy… She even managed to hide that from me for a few months, and continued to try to hide it as I figured out what was going on… I ended up having to talk to the guy (because of course it was someone we both knew) to get confirmation- and I thought it had only just started, he’s the one who told me it had been going on for months. He said she told him we were already separated, just living in the same house to keep things stable for the kids… He seemed genuinely distressed and apologetic to find out that wasn’t true, and from my wife’s change in demeanor afterwards, I think he broke it off with her, though she was still trying to stay close to him, under the guise of letting our kids play together… But I suspect even that’s stopped now, based on what I hear from our daughter… Sounds like she’s latched onto another guy she works with… Which is how we met way back when… And she still hasn’t filed the divorce papers, she started working on it back in March… At this point I’m going to beat her to it, I’ve been talking to a couple lawyers…
That’s different. I’m sure she still holds most of the same values she did when you two got married. Cheating, of course, is awful, but it doesn’t touch all aspects of your life so it’s much easier to hide. I’m talking about people who end up marrying someone who turns out to be a Nazi or the likes. I find it hard to believe that they didn’t know before marrying them.
Geez with that kind of ability to just magically know everything about someone I’m shocked that you’re here wasting time on the internet. That kind of skill should be put to you saving the world shouldn’t it? Guy over here is basically Wonder Woman’s lasso.
Chill. There was no reason to go off on this guy. And you really did. WTH?
I didn’t say I magically know everything about anyone. I said if I’m marrying someone, I make it my business to find out who they are.
Okay I got it. So you have a magical power that as soon as you say I do you gain full and complete total knowledge of somebody. Impossible to fool no way whatsoever something could get by you. We’re taking you to Vegas. Going to set up a CIA black site and an Elvis impersonator and get some shit done.
Are you 11?
Not able to discern that huh? Don’t worry I know it’s just cuz we haven’t said I do yet.
Here’s a thing. There are people who have mental illness that absolutely does interfere with their ability to be honest about who and what they are.
There’s also a whole host of other things like neurological divergence that causes people to mask. Both behaviours and views to fit in. Some people know deep down that their beliefs are wrong but they are selfish about the investment they feel they have in another person, so much so that they won’t leave because they don’t think they can get someone else. Trying to boil something down to “you were married, you should have known”, especially when marriage for love in history is a relatively very new thing is kind of ridiculous. I’ve been married for 12 years. I still don’t know everything about my spouse or their views. And given that people’s views can change drastically over time, it’s reasonable to assume that one or the other person is going to disagree about something they may have believed a year ago or 5 years ago etc.
I’ve been married twice. I certainly wasn’t expecting the first person I married to leave me in crippling debt because he couldn’t take care of himself or be an adult. I had no reason to think he would just stop paying bills. No reason to think he’d get addicted to pills and hide it from me. People. Change.
Are you trying to imply that the people you disagree with politically - presumably those to the right of center - all fit into the cartoon caricature you just painted? The things you listed aren’t even political issues but social ones.
Zealots have zero appreciation for nuance in life.
Everyone who has an opinion that doesn’t match theirs 100% is a Nazi that should put into a fema camp staffed by Obama death panels. That’s the only solution tbh
You’re right, there is a huge chunk of right of center people who hate women and minorities but keep their opinions behind closed doors. How could OP have lumped them with those who are open about those opinions!
Just for your edification I have that guy tagged as the Avatar of Elon Musk. As in he says the most horrific things you’ll ever see and then describes himself as center right. There was a thread a few days ago where he argued that Free Will shouldn’t exist and we should all just follow the orders of our betters. Presumably Elon Musk.
Sounds like a typical enlightened centrist.
Curiously, once you Scooby Doo their mask off they’re always quite far to the right of the centre they claim to value so much.
The real question: how do they make it past the dating stage?
Most people don’t care that much and they are not that passionate about politics.
For some people politics ideologies is not the central point of their lives. Thus it really doesn’t become something that disallow dating.
Values are crucial. Your politics tell me your values.
I do know bad and good people voting and being part of each political party I know.
They start out aligned, but then one person’s ideology changes over time (perhaps even after marriage).
Sometimes you don’t know. Or think it’s not important.
There’s this thing basically (you’ve probably heard about it), “I don’t like X people, but you’re good because you’re not like them”. X can be race, gender, any other things. When you are with that kinda person as long as they like you, you won’t feel how they are, they’ll treat you nice but it’s an exception not the rule. But when they don’t like you, they revert back to treating you like the X group. They’ll even go “I knew X would be like this” and all.
Now in many cases if they were vocal about it from the beginning you’d notice and might get away. But in many cases they won’t be vocal, or they’ll talk about it with some extreme examples which you might feel is justified and you know you’re not like that so it’s fine. And in those cases you yourself might hate those subgroup for ruining your reputation so you might even bond over that.
I was raised a combination of atheist (mom) and Quaker (dad) - the atheism definitely won, though I did internalize a decent amount of the Quakerism… I was engaged to a Catholic girl in my mid-20s. We discussed things early on, I said I’d respect her beliefs if she’d respect my lack thereof, and for a while it worked out nicely, we’d talk about spiritual stuff, but neither of us was trying to convert the other, it was more of a “how do you feel about x” or “how do you explain y”… But after a while, she decided that since I was “preventing” her from going to church some Sundays (I wasn’t, I was fine with her going without me, she just didn’t want to if she had the option to stay in bed and fool around with me, and why on earth would I turn her down?) that she wanted me to go with her the next Sunday whenever she skipped one. In retrospect, this was the first nail in the coffin of our relationship, but of course I didn’t recognize it at the time. It took us moving in together permanently for me to see how controlling she was, and how mean she could be if she didn’t get her way…
She was a church-going catholic, wanted you to go too, but was living together before marriage (mortal sin), fooling around (mortal sin) and engaged to an atheist (not a sin in itself but frowned upon)? I mean yeah, just the sheer contradiction of these is a red flag, no wonder the girl ended up being messed up later on
People that disagree about fundamental things in life tend to not be good matches romantically…news at 11.
Tune in Saturday to watch our round table where several overly serious and over paid people discuss why the relationship between the Jewish woman and her literal Nazi husband fell apart.
I would never be with someone who doesn’t find MAGA repulsive.
At this point, anyone who votes Republican is complicit, and I’ve cut all of them out of my life except for my parents, and even then I don’t invite them to social events and have stopped giving them money when they run low.
Couples with opposing views on many things face higher risk of separation, is this a surprise to anyone?
GOOD
No shit sherlock
Several comments on here read like prime examples of “anyone who opposes me is a fascist”. Of course in conservative forums it’s similarly “anyone who opposes me is a lunatic Marxist”. Try having a relationship across aisles in this climate!
The study took 30 years to conclude but I wonder whether the current political climate makes it even more unlikely that people across political divides can form really any kind of relationship. I know I have found it difficult to maintain a relationship with anyone staunchly conservative even if political leaning has never been a main criterion for me in mate selection or in friendships.
The current political climate is different than before. It not falls along the lines of empathy. I don’t see how marriages survive that in a healthy way.
That isn’t to say they’ll all divorce. Divorce rates are very tightly coupled to economic well-being and children. But I do think a lot more people are staying in horrible marriages if their partner has no empathy.
Well when one side wants to literally murder the other, Yeah.
I love the virtue signaling the OP triggered haha
