I’ll start. I’m a 37-year-old woman, and I’ve always been indifferent about having children. I love peace and quiet, but at the same time, I wouldn’t mind having kids if my partner really wanted them.

I’ve been with my husband for 13 years now and married for 11. I’m his second (and final) wife. He has three kids with his first wife. She was supportive of him taking a second wife, with just one request: no more children. That solidified my decision not to have kids.

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    Not fast enough lol

    The single most defiant act an individual can do twoars society is refuse to reproduce, after that is refusing to contribute to the society.

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      I respect your opinion obviously but I disagree. If the only people who can afford children are the rich then they will be the only people left. I get the sense from your comment that society will miss your offspring, and while I think it should as genetic diversity is a good thing, automation is likely to hurt the value of labor given our current direction. While genetic determinism is overused, I would put forward that those who succeed at capitalism have more sociopathic tendencies and desire for power. If only those people breed will not those traits become more prevalent? If that is the case then for the sake of humanity I think you should breed. Or maybe all of this will be made mute by genetic engineering, who knows.

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        Lmao this is the issue

        Selfish people only think about who spawns more soldiers for a fantasy ideological war. Or for some sick fetish with spawning to perpetuate your oh so special genes and family name.

        People don’t fucking consider anything about the life their children will have to live, and then have the audacity to say “i love my child”

        Birthing children into poverty is abuse. At least just as abusive as a parent who can supply everything for their child but refuses to, because the effects of neglect are the same.