Like this. Basic stuff, “I wish I had been taught how to do my taxes in high school” kind of stuff. Long-form video content is preferred but not required.
Edit: I should clarify for everyone in the thread that I could probably work my way up to reading stuff, especially further on when I’ve built up some better habits. Should also mention my executive dysfunction/ADHD issues in this post body
I understand and appreciate the intent of what you’re saying, but I have really bad executive dysfunction/ADHD/whatever issues that make this not a realistic choice for me. This post wouldn’t need to exist if I had the motivation to sit down and read my way to victory. Long-form listenable content is also just much easier for me to multitask with.
Fully sympathise. People are giving general advice, and there’s good evidence that it works for most people. I have adhd, and even I know that multi-tasking is distracting and that if I can focus entirely on something I will perform better. But I also know from decades of daily experience that if I try and completely focus on something when my brain is not compliant, then I will do much much worse.
I will learn a lot more by listening to an audiobook while I do chores for an hour, even if sometimes the chores distract me from the content, compared with trying to read a book. Because if I sit and try and read, I will manage one minute, get up and get a drink, reread the same page, want some music to cover up some distracting noise, then rememeber that I’m avoiding distractions so turn the music off… And so on, until after ten minutes I’m only in page 2 and I give up in frustration, drained and demotivated.
As an ever more aged adult, I think the one piece advice I’d give my younger self is “trust yourself”. I’ve wasted so much time trying to follow advice and rules that just never worked for me, and eventually I realise that my instincts were right and I should have just improved my own strategies instead of trying to become something I’m not. That’s not to say you know everything already. Listen to people, try their ideas out, experiment and all that, but don’t feel pressure to do what works for “most people” if it doesn’t work for you.
Don’t apologize for not having the same learning styles that other poster has.
Rule 2 of adulting: Stop trying to multitask. Multitasking is a myth and impossible for humans to actually successfully do. The more things you try to do at once, the less effective and capable you are at each individual task. Literally not a single human alive is actually good at multitasking. I understand you have issues, but whether you like it or not, you’re reducing your effective capacity to “get shit done” by choosing to try to do this impossible thing called multitasking.
https://hbr.org/2010/12/you-cant-multi-task-so-stop-tr
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7075496/
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/science-clear-multitasking-doesnt-work
https://www.npr.org/2008/10/02/95256794/think-youre-multitasking-think-again
https://radius.mit.edu/programs/multitasking-why-your-brain-cant-do-it-and-what-you-should-do-about-it/
https://neuroleadership.com/your-brain-at-work/the-myth-of-multitasking
OP don’t listen to this shit. ADHD people are the best at multitasking, we thrive at it. In fact jobs will love that you can do it. This poster is just making an excuse for themselves. (Another thing you gotta watch out for as an adult. People are tricky and play their own mind games.)
Bullshit.
Constantly bouncing between projects and never making meaningful progress is NOT multitasking.
I’m able to multitask and make progress with more than project at once, and I’m sure I’m not the only one.
But did you progress more than if you had concentrated on one project at a time? That’s the point they are trying to make.
Jesus Christ, fuck science and evidence, I guess. There’s a reason I included that. But sure, let’s go off one assholes anecdote that “ADHD people are the best at multitasking, we thrive at it” and everyone else is just making an excuse for their shortcoming of not having ADHD. Give me a break dude.
And for another anecdote, literally nobody I know who has ADHD is loved at their job for having it. They all struggle to hold jobs.
yeah, it was a bit of an exaggeration. there are definitely aspects that make it hard, but others can be used to their advantage.
Most science about human behavior deals with averages. It’s completely possible that a subpopulation might show an inverse trend. This is especially the case when it’s a subpopulation with known differences in similar behavior. I’m not saying ADHD people benefit from multitasking, but we just can’t say anything based on the general population.
A friend of mine is excelling at sales and that is due to his personality, including ADHD. In most jobs, of course, it’s not beneficial and can pose problems. But that doesn’t mean you can’t find jobs that are well-suited for ADHD people – maybe even better suited than for neurotypicals.
This is a much fairer and more well reasoned take than what the other fellow said.
Somebody did already find it worth a downvote lol.
Sorry to hear that, you got an upvote from me at least. (Downvotes don’t federate to blahaj and you can’t downvote from blahaj)