I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc
I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.
Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.
Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.
Men tend to really struggle to make and maintain friendships. That’s not just you. Anyone who thinks you need to “get over it” can get fucked. Healing from an experience like that takes time.
It sounds like you’re already going to therapy. The other thing that helped me a lot was self-care. Be intentional about going doing things that you enjoy. I spent lots of time fishing and playing golf. It was therapeutic in its own way.