Would you or would you not have a funeral for a toddler should they pass for whatever reason?
I was kinda shocked that my husband thought I was a monster for thinking it’s unnecessary.
The way I see it, you can’t be attached to the child until they’re old enough to display personality, which comes way later than the toddler stage; I just can’t see myself having any attachment before their personality develops. If this happened to me, I’d just chalk it up to a ~2 year time loss and go for another pregnancy. Thoughts?
At the end of the day this is anecdotal too of course but I will say that there are a lot of historical documents like diaries and letters that somewhat support this claim. I’ve seen some where fathers mourned their children but many also just wrote something like “Youngest died from a fever. Was weak from the get-go so whatever.” (I’m paraphrasing) which is something that I’ve never seen in a document written by a woman. I don’t think that this has anything to do with men being inherently less emotional rather than arbitrary gender roles but still.