Would you or would you not have a funeral for a toddler should they pass for whatever reason?

I was kinda shocked that my husband thought I was a monster for thinking it’s unnecessary.

The way I see it, you can’t be attached to the child until they’re old enough to display personality, which comes way later than the toddler stage; I just can’t see myself having any attachment before their personality develops. If this happened to me, I’d just chalk it up to a ~2 year time loss and go for another pregnancy. Thoughts?

  • underline960@sh.itjust.works
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    2 months ago

    Funerals are for the living, not for the dead.

    If enough people had gotten to know the toddler that the ritual of a funeral would be comforting and connecting for them, I would have a funeral.

    If the toddler only really made a mark on one or both of the parents, I would have a small, more intimate ceremony instead.

    If the toddler hasn’t yet made its mark on anyone yet, then the funeral serves no one.