Would you or would you not have a funeral for a toddler should they pass for whatever reason?
I was kinda shocked that my husband thought I was a monster for thinking it’s unnecessary.
The way I see it, you can’t be attached to the child until they’re old enough to display personality, which comes way later than the toddler stage; I just can’t see myself having any attachment before their personality develops. If this happened to me, I’d just chalk it up to a ~2 year time loss and go for another pregnancy. Thoughts?
This has happened before to me: we’ve adopted dogs that just didn’t make it, and even loving on them while they were around, if they passed less than a month in, I’d just move on immediately and adopt again. Surely attachment isn’t in the instant of adoption or birth, right?
The instant of birth, sometimes; sometimes it’s before the birth even. Sometimes it does take time; my friend didn’t feel much when his sons were born but he got attached very quickly. Still, his is the only case I’ve heard of my parent friends not getting attached at birth or before.
I think this is just highly individual, which is why do baby people are responding so negatively. I also think that if you do end up having kids of your own, you might be surprised at how much you care about them even before the birth. Or, maybe not. I just know there’s a good chance your emotions won’t do what you think they will.