Would you or would you not have a funeral for a toddler should they pass for whatever reason?
I was kinda shocked that my husband thought I was a monster for thinking it’s unnecessary.
The way I see it, you can’t be attached to the child until they’re old enough to display personality, which comes way later than the toddler stage; I just can’t see myself having any attachment before their personality develops. If this happened to me, I’d just chalk it up to a ~2 year time loss and go for another pregnancy. Thoughts?
i think it is a fine way to accept death. to be fair, that emotional resilience and adaptability is astounding.
but, since this matter is just not your own, i do hope you talk and work things out with your husband and find a cormon ground of acceptance.
for me, i would have a moment of grief and at least offer a small memory to the child (these are financially hard times). i am not sure how long i can recover from grief but i think it is for a good cause.