Would you or would you not have a funeral for a toddler should they pass for whatever reason?
I was kinda shocked that my husband thought I was a monster for thinking it’s unnecessary.
The way I see it, you can’t be attached to the child until they’re old enough to display personality, which comes way later than the toddler stage; I just can’t see myself having any attachment before their personality develops. If this happened to me, I’d just chalk it up to a ~2 year time loss and go for another pregnancy. Thoughts?
It sounds like you’re not the type of person who wants to have kids. And that’s fine, you do you.
But if you’re interested in another perspective: I had close friends of mine lose one of their twin daughters at only a couple months of age. I played a song at their funeral. And it was, by a large margin, the saddest funeral I have ever attended. In addition to the parents definitely having a strong connection to the child, there’s something tragic about a young innocent life being snuffed out so early.
As another poster mentioned, this may have something to do with cultural differences. Which again is fine, just take the opportunity to have a serious conversation with your husband about what parenthood means to both of you. It’s one of the most difficult things you’ll ever do, and being caught by differing expectations (especially to this degree) when you’re exhausted with sleep deprivation is not ideal.