Would you or would you not have a funeral for a toddler should they pass for whatever reason?

I was kinda shocked that my husband thought I was a monster for thinking it’s unnecessary.

The way I see it, you can’t be attached to the child until they’re old enough to display personality, which comes way later than the toddler stage; I just can’t see myself having any attachment before their personality develops. If this happened to me, I’d just chalk it up to a ~2 year time loss and go for another pregnancy. Thoughts?

  • roofuskit@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    Have you considered he’s correct? I wouldn’t say monster, but there is a very cold lack of empathy in you argument, like it’s being made by a machine and not a person. Funerals are for the people left behind, not for the dead.

    This is one hell of a red flag for your husband.