Either from abusive parents, toxic relationships, short or long term bullying or any other kind of traumatic past that gave you some survival reflexes that are not longer relevant but are hard for you to get rid of.

  • 𝕱𝖎𝖗𝖊𝖜𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍@lemmy.world
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    13 days ago

    Raised in the US, now live in a safer country. Whenever I go to a large gathering I instinctually look for the exits and try to stay near them. Logically I know the chances of a mass casualty event are lower, but that trauma never left. Also still scared to go to the doctor.

    I recently found another minor trigger, I’ve been dubbing them microtriggers. There’s a lot of apartment buildings named “__ Arms” here. In the US, I associate anything advertising arms to be a huge gun store covered in hateful MAGA branding. Took me a while to get over that. I still side eye the sign whenever I pass by.

    • WhyJiffie@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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      12 days ago

      Expecting government offices to be heavily armed and require going through TSA levels of security. Turns out other countries aren’t police states that treat you like a criminal by default.

      lots do but not that openly

      • 𝕱𝖎𝖗𝖊𝖜𝖎𝖙𝖈𝖍@lemmy.world
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        12 days ago

        Oh for sure, but in the few cases I’ve gone into a routine govt office here it’s usually just a few guys at the front by reception.

        In the US, they X-ray everything and question me about my (fairly mundane) fidget spinner like I’m carrying around a WMD on my keychain. I have to empty my purse and take out anything that a schizophrenic might consider suspicious.