• rabber@lemmy.ca
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        7 days ago

        No of course they aren’t. Who said they are?

        I’m saying women are put off my emotional instability aka “showing your feelings”

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          7 days ago

          Women aren’t a monolith, just as men aren’t. There are women who will appreciate your emotional openness, especially if you are able to regulate and communicate those emotions in a healthy way.

          Edit to add: my relationship to my husband has only grown deeper as he has learnt to better access and express his emotions. In particular, he is working on accessing emotions other than anger, and this has really helped us grow our connection.

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              6 days ago

              You aren’t connecting any kind of dots I can see. Maybe be more specific? Either way, it doesn’t seem like you are basing your idea on real life. I’ve known plenty of women just looking for a nice guy, either you aren’t actually putting yourself out there and are believing incel propaganda, OR you have a had a few bad experiences that also aren’t a representation of reality, just those few individuals.

              • rabber@lemmy.ca
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                6 days ago

                Well it’s a good way to befriend women but it’s going to make them not have sex with you, in my experience, lol