From the begging. 7 years ago I’d moved to a new town and started swiping through tinder, matched with someone (Claire) and I at that time was shallow, hooked up that same evening and walked her home after. We continued this a few times.

Months go by and I’m working a bar job, at a small nightclub in this small town it was pretty grim but being early 20s I didn’t mind too much, it was one of the quietist nights I had worked as festival season had started and the young night clubbers we’re in tents but Claire who I’d been hooking up with and was far from personal who I had never seen in the nightclub before had come in crying her eyes out asking why I didn’t love her, she was drunk and I took leave spoke with her, and following the encounter spoke a lot less after if at all.

I move away, after 2 year I move to a city 3 hours across from the small town. I meat some one and we are dating and I put a picture up on Instagram of me and her, soon after Claire who I dont follow and she doesn’t follow me message me asking how ive been, I said I live somewhere else now and wish them best. Already found this strange. Anyway my new relationship goes on for 3 and a half years but then we break up. Deleting my old pictures of my now ex I get another message from Claire who isn’t following me nor am I felling her. Asking how I am and what I was upto but I think I either ignored it or kept it short.

Current day, Claire pops up on tinder distance 3 miles, I swipe and match, let it cook and she soon after messages me, supper friendly like always and we idlely chat get her number and she wants to know why I matched, “I wanted to apologise for being shallow, narcissistic and not treating people with more respect” (upsets me the way I was)

She’s gone on to say she thinks of me a lot, this makes me feel uncomfortable like she’s got an attachment issue…

What’s everyone’s take. How should I processed I feel its unfair on her talking to her but I dont want her to waste her time thinking unhealthfuly about me.

I have trauma so things like this can send me in a mental spiral but anyway thanks