i am not talking about performance anxiety i think

it is something else

i might feel

  • being close to someone = danger = EJECT EJECT EJECT
  • someone i like shows she likes me = danger = PUSH PUSH PUSH her away
  • i am needy therefore i will be exploited
  • those who love get screwed. so i must not get close to anyone i love
  • i have no support network therefore i will be badly hurt when this ends, and almost everything ends
  • she does x or y, so she is not good enough, so i won’t get close to her
  • MyPornViewingAccount@lemmy.world
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    11 days ago

    Ok mate, heres the simplest thing to calm your body physically.

    Breath in through your nose, out through your mouth. Normally, deliberately. Gonna puke? Same thing will stop you puking. Panicing about public speaking? See above.

    Next, when it comes to learning to talk to ladies, or any human strangers, You have to practice.

    Start small. Talk to the cashier about literally anything, what you bought, the weather, literally anything. Work your way up to a simple, “hows your day?”

    Got that mastered?

    Now talk to the old lady on your bus stop, she’s got scary female chromosomes just like the girl youre crushing on.

    Practice makes perfect and conversation is an art.

    Youre not painting the Mono Lisa tomorrow, but you can color by numbers with the cashier at the grocery store.