I’m talking about like, service workers and store employees who are miserable and take their anger out on completely innocent people.

If you’re hot and dress nice would it make it less likely for you to be the target of those pieces of shit?

  • i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    28 days ago

    I’ll split my adult life into three parts.

    When I was younger, I was decently attractive. I was an ideal weight, and I didn’t look tired all the time. I had the energy to groom myself and wear decent clothes. Most people seemed to want to help me or were nice to me. However, some people were just plain vicious to me. It was like I did something horrible to them, but as far as I know, I did not.

    When life and my chronic illness kicked my ass, I was plain and somewhat unattractive. I became overweight. I had the energy for basic hygiene and to wear something that fits, and that’s it. I was told I had “stress in my face.” I was invisible. No one bothered me. No one wanted to talk to me.

    When I had more energy to put into my appearance, I was maybe a 5, maybe a touch over. Still overweight, still pretty tired. (Been getting it medically checked out… No answers yet.) Getting a little more personal grooming and got some clothes that look pretty nice. Some people are a little nicer to me. No one has outright bullied me.

    Granted, I am a woman. It might be different for men. I’m also not sure if someone is just angry at everyone if what you look like really matters.