Telling an employee how they should speak could potentially be micromanaging, but providing constructive criticism for drafting emails et cetera is not.

I don’t think that thin skinned is the right word for this. It’s great to take pride in your own writing style and natural to feel somewhat offended when someone is critical of it. However, it can’t hurt to at least listen to criticism in an objective way before deciding whether it’s author is being a toxic micromanaging prick, or may indeed have something useful to say.

Oddly enough, just 2 days ago I told a team member to make some changes to the tone of an email. He’s a tax consultant, he was emailing an employee of a client who does their bookwork. It was a long email regarding multiple ways they could improve their records in future in order to minimise our fees. My team member didn’t really intend it but he’d drafted something that just made him look like an asshole “I’m better than you” type missive to someone who’s doing their best with no support and no formal training.

I explained that a good relationship with that person will be far more valuable and helpful to us in future than whatever improvements in their records might arise from the email itself.

The skills involved in drafting good communication can be continually improved over a lifetime.

You’re going to have to order lumch from the menu.

The real problem is that the paper clips were on backwards.

Yes, you are too thin skinned

Know your audience. Up your Grammer/biz speak skills as you move up the chain of command. Relax it a bit moving down it.

This works in most cases.

Depends on the job a great deal. I can’t use the same words to talk to customers as I can my coworkers.

Communication can be an important part of one’s job and communication encompasses more than just being able to speak to someone, but also being able to tailor your speech to your audience.

If a manager feels that your vocabulary can hinder how much a client or customer will be able to understand than it is reasonable to ask them to tone it down a bit in certain situations. In other where you are communicating with colleagues in adjacent industries it would probably be a boon to have someone sound super smart and knowledgeable and then you want them to tone it up. It’s situational and can be a positive or a negative but the employee needs to be able to recognize the situation they are in and adjust accordingly.

I have a coworker right now where we have this issue. He’s a very knowledgable person but also a little arrogant and always wants to sound like the smartest person in the room, but when you are explaining stuff to a random person on the street you don’t want him to be blasting off technical jargon and Latin names for shit as it doesn’t help the person understand anything and doesn’t encourage increased dialogue.

I tend to be a chameleon in social situations. I worked as a server and in retail, and adapting my language and behaviors helped me connect with all sorts of people. How I talked with a group of little old ladies who just came from church was COMPLETELY different than how I talked to the drunks on third shift.

If someone else is using big words, feel free to match them, but most people don’t really care about learning big words that mean the same thing as words they already know. This alone doesn’t make them stupid, as they probably know a lot about other things that you have no interest in.

When I hear someone using archaic words, I don’t assume that they are smart, I assume they WANT TO SOUND smart and that they are too good to act like a “normal” person.

You must rid yourself of childish folly

Real answer: if you’re communicating, you want to be understood at some level. Knowing the audience changes the dynamic to fulfill that goal. If you use big words and your audience is 5 year olds, you likely won’t be understood.

If someone gave me this advice, my first reaction wouldn’t be “You’re attacking me!” It would, “Hey, thanks for the advice. Can you unpack it further for me?” In work, I’ve done well by having a growth oriented mindset. There absolutely are bad faith actors, but listening to the advice of others has helped me grow.

I got called into the office by my supervisor for a verbal counseling because I used the words “myriad” and “recalcitrant” in an email to a subordinate who was not doing their job.

I train people on how to speak (to executives, during a presentation, with clients) all the time. In my line of work, a client can end a contract if they don’t like engaging with my team - so it is pretty relevant to the job.

“I don’t have the time or the crayons to explain it to you” is the best response.

[Shitty Life Pro Tip]
You answer : okay you want me to explain like you are five ? … can do that 😏

I haven’t seen the show. From the context you provided and assuming good faith from both parties, it sounds like a skill issue on both their parts.

Don’t understand words? Ask for clarification during the conversation, not after the fact in a performance review.

Audience doesn’t understand your words? If the audience tells you they don’t understand, take that feedback and try to communicate more effectively.

It’s not fair to judge if this is micromanaging or toxic based on the first discussion about it. It depends on how both parties behave and choose to cooperate now that the issue has been raised. Knowing whatever history these characters have and the tone of the scene might paint a better picture of their intentions.