• neptune@dmv.social
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    9 months ago

    Yeah I get it. If there’s not attraction, it goes no further.

    I’d suggest you get into a venue with more women and ask them (assuming this is the audience you want to woo)

    And then second: get out in the real world. Attraction as a filter works on your side IRL. Anyone who keeps talking to you is already past your looks.

    Also, have you considered a career that is associated with money?

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      9 months ago

      My crush, who was my friend once openly said to me how she likes tall guys. I was there, she knew I was not tall and she said this in front of me. There was an old survey on Reddit and it proved the same thing that height is most Important for women. And that survey was 7 -8 years old, today’s conditions are even worse.

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        9 months ago

        You’re giving her way too much free real estate in your head. Better to use it as fuel/a chip on your shoulder, if at all.

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            9 months ago

            Get in good shape, if you’re not already. “I’ll show you what I’m capable of. I’m going to find someone better.” That kind of deal. It works. That’s what I did when what I believed to be the love of my life (she called me her soul mate!) up and married some German douche. While still claiming she loved me, to boot. Better to not focus on people like that, at all, but that’s not always realistic. So if you must feel pain from it, why not decide to make it the pain of self-improvement?